Sadly I can relate, even in my limited situation
My wife says much of the same stuff to me. Disparages any outfit I show her, saying it's "not my style" or "would look bad on me." This is often followed by what is appropriate for women our age.
She often questions why I even carry a purse, cause "you don't need any of that stuff" and, " you have pockets."
And she is furious that if I were to have boobs (either way) they wouldn't be ravaged by gravity and childrearing. And like why would I want them in the first place?
BiG NOTE: She has never seen me in femme clothing nor my wig. (I haven't started HRT.)
Obviously me even talking about it activates tons of 90s girl social trauma. But what the hell.
Also? I get told she would never be my friend cause I'd be one of "those plastic, mean-girl cunts". Wtf.