Nostr notes by Joscelyn Transpiring

Hmmm…Bolsonaro is in the US again…100 internet points to ...

2026-10-29T16:33:38Z

Hmmm…Bolsonaro is in the US again…100 internet points to anyone who pranks him on camera when he shows up at a KFC or whatever 🤭

I need help: $465 / $600 (PLEASE BOOST) Friends, my family and I ...

2026-10-04T16:39:22Z

I need help: $465 / $600

(PLEASE BOOST)

Friends, my family and I have found each other in a bad situation. Due to rising rent/groceries/gas/etc., we ran out of money for the month before we could make our car payment. It is $600 a month and without the car, I can't continue pursuing my graduate degree to become a therapist. On top of that...if we don't meet this payment, it will domino into everything else in our lives.

If you can spare anything, it will help keep my family able to stay in the workforce, me getting my graduate degree and doing crisis work at my internship, and keep two trans women and their puppy housed.

If you want to give to me directly, you can use my stripe link on my website: https://forbidden-queeries.ghost.io/tip-jar/

I would also ask you to consider, if you can, supporting the podcast Brooke and I do together. Brooke has agreed that all funds we receive this month will go towards my fundraising effort: https://ko-fi.com/anothergirlstreasure

#MutualAid #TransMutualAid #Trans #Queer #QueerMutualAid

I remember when assholes were telling the queer and trans folks ...

2026-10-01T15:25:30Z

I remember when assholes were telling the queer and trans folks standing against genocide of Palestinians that Muslims over there would kill us. More than a year out though, you know who is standing in solidarity with us against anti-trans shit in the US? Muslim Americans who have our backs like we had theirs.

It’s not universal and there are still tensions in certain corners, but like…Mamdani and Al-Sayed are out here standing up for us, Muslim friends of mine show up for us, and Muslims aren’t the ones throwing us under the bus right now but white Christian liberals are.

This is coalition and solidarity. When we stand with others who also are hurt and face violence from these systems, we build bridges that make us all more powerful in fighting for a better world.

Yes, I am the toxic fan. It’s me, I’m the problem. 😅

2026-09-29T15:31:38Z

In reply to nevent1q…6ql7
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Yes, I am the toxic fan. It’s me, I’m the problem. 😅

Now begins a grudge against G. Willow Wilson until the day I die ...

2026-09-29T15:30:45Z

In reply to nevent1q…y9e5
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Now begins a grudge against G. Willow Wilson until the day I die because she dare mess with my polyamorous antihero lesbians!

Also, forgive me if I seem grumpy over the next few ...

2026-09-29T15:28:05Z

In reply to nevent1q…h0uz
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Also, forgive me if I seem grumpy over the next few weeks…months…years…I finally read the comics where Ivy breaks up with Harley because of PR reasons and it is unearned, does not match the characters, and just doesn’t make sense. They broke up MY GIRLS for no good reason! Didn’t even get good story out of it! 😤

Over the past decade, Bane, Joker, scarecrow, and now Poison Ivy ...

2026-09-29T15:26:16Z

Over the past decade, Bane, Joker, scarecrow, and now Poison Ivy have taken over Gotham…are they just playing musical chairs with every Batman supervillain in the mayor’s office? 😅

How do I explain nicely to a colleague that “no, AI has not ...

2026-09-10T02:08:56Z

How do I explain nicely to a colleague that “no, AI has not gotten sentient and gone rogue and is going to control the world now…can we get back to talking about our social work group project for class please?” 😅

I'm proud of my own little place in Fediverse history having ...

2026-08-24T19:54:07Z

I'm proud of my own little place in Fediverse history having started #TransMusicMonday over three and a half years ago in January 2023! I love that others picked it up and added to it, sharing so much great music and platforming artists that the industry often ignores or neglects.

I made the mistake of searching if it was possible to change the ...

2026-08-23T15:38:01Z

I made the mistake of searching if it was possible to change the sex/gender of a character in Fallout 4...and looked at what people said in forums. Some shit for brains reply-guys felt the need to respond to the question about this on forums with "You can't change chromosomes" and "Watch out or we'll have to start calling you Caitlyn" and other just weird, irrelevant transphobia.

It's bonkers to me that there's creepy chuds who would even bother to go into a thread they don't need to go into to police even the virtual idea of gender change. May those people go throw themselves into the sea and be devoured by the elder gods.

Spider-Man was my other childhood hero!

2026-08-16T19:11:06Z

In reply to nevent1q…aptz
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Spider-Man was my other childhood hero!

he also started as a working class boy on a farm on a planet on ...

2026-08-16T16:19:10Z

In reply to nevent1q…2nua
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he also started as a working class boy on a farm on a planet on the periphery, as opposed to basically just always being middle to upper class.

I think this is why I never got into the books in the first ...

2026-08-16T16:00:22Z

In reply to nevent1q…hpvj
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I think this is why I never got into the books in the first place. As a white trash, working class nerd, a middle class nerd to jock fantasy just wasn’t interesting to me.

Besides, if I wanted a hero’s journey, I already had Luke in Star Wars. And that had much better lessons about compassion and fighting against the system with a bunch of weirdos. That’s my kind of story.

Even when the DSA loses a primary, it wins. I think this is ...

2026-08-16T15:55:50Z

Even when the DSA loses a primary, it wins.

I think this is something establishment democrats don’t understand, just as they didn’t understand with the rise of the tea party or MAGA. DSA and leftist candidates across the US are having huge successes in primary elections, and even when they don’t win, they are often getting 30% - 49% of the vote. The result is that “centrist” and neoliberal democrats are feeling the heat, shifting their language, and proposing new policies that were outside the Overton window just 5 years ago.

Even if socialist and leftist movements can’t take over the Democratic Party, there is a lot of influence and momentum that can shift things in a much better direction. FDR’s New Deal and LBJ’s Great Society were efforts to counter the rise of socialism and leftism in the US, which had gained so much ground during the Great Depression and again during the civil rights movement. These had plenty of problems, but it saw leftist policies become normalized and forever reshape a government that has always favored the wealthy and colonialism.

This is not only how we finally got social security and Medicare, but also the end of Jim Crow and segregation, the groundwork for disability rights, and at least some means for organized labor to exist and stopping the Pinkertons from just machine gunning down strikers. Not to mention publicly owned utilities like water and electricity, and other really important systems that couldn’t exist otherwise. This is also what the fascists have been working to tear down for 80 years.

So, even though I want to see more than even the DSA is trying to or can accomplish, and I want to organize collectively outside electoral politics, this is a game changing moment where we can force the mainstream to the left and help people’s lives here and now. And it builds the practice of collective action and collaboration, which we can leverage for organizing outside the system.

my brain is broken because every time I see “wwu” my brain ...

2026-08-07T02:30:35Z

In reply to nevent1q…slgp
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my brain is broken because every time I see “wwu” my brain substitutes “uwu”…which admittedly, is also appropriate for a group of wikimedia staff 🤣

this is why efforts to archive and write histories in mediums ...

2026-07-31T18:32:13Z

In reply to nevent1q…7e6h
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this is why efforts to archive and write histories in mediums that can be preserved are so vital, and make me hopeful.

Reason No. 78 to embrace neurodiversity framework in psychology: ...

2026-07-27T20:43:56Z

Reason No. 78 to embrace neurodiversity framework in psychology: nervous systems are weird and different ones will have completely different reactions to the same substance and dosage.

I am a case in point. Things my nervous system has weird reactions to:

1) My nervous system is almost completely unresponsive to cannabinoids. THC, whether smoked or eaten, just doesn’t seem to connect with my nervous system. No giddiness, no anxiety, no nausea or increased appetite, no heightened sense of novelty, no mild stimulant effects. Nothing. No one I know is like this.

2) I am highly resistant to opiates, and most opiates are ineffective on me. Opiate derived numbing agents, like lidocaine, also take higher doses, are slower to act, and wear off quicker. I also tend to need a bit more anesthesia. We might actually know why this one happens: I have ginger/redhead genes and there is a correlation (though inconclusive science) with the gene that changes melaninocytes.

3) I straight up can’t stay addicted to nicotine. I have repeatedly been a regular smoker, having as much as half a pack a day. And then I’ll just forget to smoke for a while. I sometimes can identify withdrawal effects afterwards, but during I just won’t notice for weeks or months at a time really. Again, I don’t know anyone who doesn’t even choose to stop smoking but can’t stay addicted to it despite physical dependency! I suspect my ADHD is just that bad! 🤣🤣🤣

What gets me too is I’m trying to do all this so I can work for ...

2026-07-23T22:04:24Z

In reply to nevent1q…xhep
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What gets me too is I’m trying to do all this so I can work for the people funding me to pay back the “scholarship” to do something about the insufficient number of mental healthcare providers in our state (and country). I am doing things “the right way” and almost had it all taken away not because of anything I did or didn’t do, but because someone with a pen is obsessively pedantic and someone who drafted the form was actively negligent in doing their job.

It’s so deflating, since this is my attempt at building a career where I no longer have to live in constant precarity. And it takes so much of the joy out of this new endeavor in my life. I resent this shitty and heartless system for doing this to me and so many others.

So emotionally exhausted from yesterday’s struggle with keeping ...

2026-07-23T22:00:20Z

So emotionally exhausted from yesterday’s struggle with keeping two bureaucracies I have no power over from keeping wrecking my life. It’s all finally resolved, got them to finally give up pedantry and carelessness to sign a damn form and complete the process.

All the stress involved…I screamed and cried yesterday because my nervous system was so fucking overdone after a week of this. I am so tired of not having control over the means of keeping myself housed and fed and paying the bills they heap on me to do the things I’m trying to do to contribute to the community. But it’s done, and I did not break…just something inside me got very very bent and dented and is going to take some care and work to repair.

For so many years after transition, it’s all about figuring ...

2026-07-17T08:14:01Z

For so many years after transition, it’s all about figuring yourself out and your presentation and actually becoming the woman (or other adult gender) you are. And when you get to the point where you are just living as yourself, it still feels like being in your early 20s again, figuring stuff out, seeking out new experiences, and rebuilding your life.

Then, after that…you find yourself established, probably a bit existentially exhausted, and your time horizon has shifted from the next year to many years or a decade. You’re fully an adult as yourself. Even if you’re supposed to have reached this spot chronologically for years or decades now, you’re only just getting there. And it’s confusing because of how much fewer models there are. Like, for me, I am now a middle-aged childless woman who is doing a career pivot, laying down plans with found family to maybe buy ourselves a home in the next decade, and…what comes next? How does one live this kind of life, what’s important to think about or plan for, what is worthwhile to nurture and cultivate, and what does it mean to be an adult, queer woman living on her own terms?

I wonder if this is how life will go now, or if at the 10 or 15 year mark of transition, there’s yet another shift in what it means and feels like to try to be a person in this world. Aging and development for trans folks is definitely a complicated and disjointed experience filled with asymmetries.

So…um…damn, I’ve been a girl, a young woman, and now to figure out what it means to be a middle aged woman without children or a conventional life structure. Maybe I need to pick up some books with inspiring women characters that walk this kind of path

Have you valued your #goose today?

2026-06-26T09:05:27Z

In reply to nevent1q…6p7m
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Have you valued your #goose today?

Beware, I have discovered the #goose. Goose will continue until ...

2026-06-26T08:12:40Z

Beware, I have discovered the #goose. Goose will continue until value improves.

she helped Harley run for mayor of NYC once upon a time, just the ...

2026-06-02T20:02:02Z

In reply to nevent1q…6us3
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she helped Harley run for mayor of NYC once upon a time, just the natural step in her political career 🤭

I have been wondering where this arc will go. The first big arc in the current Ivy series was amazing, but I’ve been finding the whole Green Knight thing a bit messy and didn’t land for me.

Bisexual checklist for the day: ✅ felt hot and bothered by both ...

2026-05-30T03:36:12Z

In reply to nevent1q…5wgp
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Bisexual checklist for the day:
✅ felt hot and bothered by both masculine and feminine people
✅ ate a lemon square (or something similarly flavored
✅ failed to understand how chairs work and sat with limbs at odd angles

RE: https://toot.cat/@biupdatebot/116660581403216397 True facts

2026-05-30T03:11:22Z

RE: https://toot.cat/@biupdatebot/116660581403216397

True facts

So um…what should someone name their genitals? Wrong answers ...

2026-05-28T17:20:05Z

So um…what should someone name their genitals? Wrong answers only.

Anyone know a safe, open source way to do basic word processing ...

2026-05-17T19:44:11Z

In reply to nevent1q…lujx
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Anyone know a safe, open source way to do basic word processing documents that doesn't hoover up my writing into an LLM these days? And that doesn't spontaneously decide that I'm not allowed to write in the basic ways I've been writing for three decades???

Fuck, do I have to go back to pen and paper to just do basic writing anymore?

While I'm complaining about tech, what the hell has gone ...

2026-05-17T19:42:11Z

In reply to nevent1q…9tjc
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While I'm complaining about tech, what the hell has gone wrong with Libre Office?

Somehow, in the last two months, it started erasing tabs at the beginning of paragraphs, which I had to go into styles to fix, and now it has decided if I hit tab that I want to tab over 5.63 inches? The fuck is this?

Also, I tried to reset the amount tab is supposed to do. And I tried to tab twice...and it then reset the tab style to 5.63 inches.

I DON'T WANT TO USE MICROSOFT WORD OR GOOGLE DOCS WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS?!?!

Somehow, my new grad school login credentials are an unholy ...

2026-05-17T18:56:52Z

Somehow, my new grad school login credentials are an unholy trinity of microsoft, canvas, and gmail. As a result, if I log in with them anywhere, it means any other outlook login gets fucked in the browser as it tries to log into outlook with gmail credentials. And because I also have canvas login credentials for a community college, it often fights between those two as well.

Why oh why would someone do this? I am convinced that the IT systems of California State University were conceived of and are administered by Satan himself.

TRANS PEOPLE in the US: What area of the US do you live in? ...

2026-04-24T01:45:19Z

TRANS PEOPLE in the US: What area of the US do you live in?

I'm curious what regions of the US have the most active trans users on the fediverse. Please respond first to this poll, then find the appropriate follow-up poll and respond too. This is mostly just for our general community curiosity/knowledge as an interesting bubble of trans people on the internet.

#Trans #Transgender #Queer

I’ve had a lot of similar thoughts. There’s often the implied ...

2026-04-21T20:11:35Z

In reply to nevent1q…g0sp
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I’ve had a lot of similar thoughts. There’s often the implied desire to have the “fun” or excitement of the age of colonialism stories without the ethical costs that are inherently part of colonialism. Or it’s doing a John Smith and Pocahontas story, which was a lie hiding white supremacist violence and cruelty. We also see that constantly with robots/AI as being a form of sanitized slavery (and the implied fears of a slave rebellion against slave masters). It’s something I can’t really unsee anymore, and undermines a lot of sci-fi media.

As someone who really enjoyed strategy games, it’s an entire genre I struggle to reconcile or find a way to not just see it as colonialist fantasy. Even games that are ostensibly in a sci-fi setting end up often built on an imperialist or colonialist fantasy

Looking for recommendations: does anyone know of any decent to ...

2026-04-11T23:41:03Z

Looking for recommendations: does anyone know of any decent to good t4t romance novels?

I have two collections of erotica short stories that do have some, but I haven’t really come across any that are on the more romance side of that. But I’m sure there’s gotta be some out there, right? Bonus if it involves polyamorous folks

#trans #queer #t4t

Ouch, beware that Batwoman comics are out here just throwing ...

2026-04-09T17:25:09Z

Ouch, beware that Batwoman comics are out here just throwing deadly shade at lesbians 😅😅😅

#Batwoman #Lesbian #Queer

TRANS MASCS & MEN: I want to start a “Buy a trans guy a ...

2026-04-03T15:36:31Z

TRANS MASCS & MEN: I want to start a “Buy a trans guy a pizza day” to parallel the “buy a trans girl a pizza day.” What date do you think would be a good date for that?

Similar to how the latter helps us celebrate Mira Bellwether, it would be lovely to pick a day that lets us celebrate a trans man or trans masc who has been important to the community, but is maybe underrecognized.

#TransMen #TransMan #TransMasc

Anyone know an easy way to convert a video on one’s phone to a ...

2026-04-03T00:25:20Z

Anyone know an easy way to convert a video on one’s phone to a smaller file size?

Recorded something today and would love to share it, but the file is too big for most platforms. Uploading to YouTube would mean figuring out having a YouTube channel, and I’d rather not bother yet 😅

RE: https://mastodon.social/@Callanbellwether/116230721069003686 ...

2026-03-31T14:47:03Z

RE: https://mastodon.social/@Callanbellwether/116230721069003686

Anyone want to buy me a pizza and subsidize my decadent staying in and having a nice snack day? This unemployed trans woman would very much appreciate it. 🥺

https://venmo.com/u/JoscelynTranscience
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given that the majority of people are on the feddy because they ...

2026-03-31T04:24:18Z

In reply to nevent1q…wx50
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given that the majority of people are on the feddy because they have a problem with authority or people trying to control how they use things, it is literally the exactly wrong demographic to try to yell at people to change their behavior. Instead, appeal to their anti-authoritarian tendencies by pointing out how shitty mainstream social media spaces are to disabled people and you know this cool way people can stick it to Zuckerberg and Elon, and it just takes 10 seconds to do.

Hey, if you are #trans and began transitioning in the 2016 - 2019 ...

2026-03-25T21:30:00Z

Hey, if you are #trans and began transitioning in the 2016 - 2019 era, can you reply and let me know!

There are apparently way more of us here than I realized, and I would like to be closer friends with those that remember the before times and trans twitter and the discourses and the excitement before we all got burnt the fuck out. 😅

Does anyone know how to turn off or hide the AI summary of emails ...

2026-03-25T00:47:17Z

Does anyone know how to turn off or hide the AI summary of emails in gmail without turning off all “smart” features like sorting emails into the promotion or social inbox?

I genuinely think one of the most harmful things to my quality of ...

2026-03-05T02:37:09Z

I genuinely think one of the most harmful things to my quality of life and mental health the last five years has been being forced to live in the suburbs.

It’s the little things - hours lost to traffic and driving that I could spend reading on a train or bus, being unable to just go outside and walk around, not having a cafe, library, or even non-sports bar open after 6 pm), and everything just designed to be as low stimulus and inoffensive as possible. For an ADHD brain, it just drains me of so much life. And I really do rely on having places outside the house to do things like write because of how my brain gets stuck at home and needs fresh stimulus.

It seems like we’re still going to be stuck in this situation for now, since I want to live with my wife (and can’t afford not to), which means being within roughly 30 minutes of her work.

I don’t understand why anyone would actively choose to live in the suburbs and really wish we had other choices available to us.

Anyone know of any job openings for someone like me? Not a tech ...

2026-02-26T17:41:28Z

Anyone know of any job openings for someone like me?

Not a tech girlie, but have a masters in public policy and social research, two decades of experience in the nonprofit world with community and youth development, and I speak Japanese and Moroccan Arabic in addition to English. I am open to almost anything, at this point.

The infamous "3-items rule" that was used to arrest ...

2026-02-19T19:29:13Z

In reply to nevent1q…qvqy
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The infamous "3-items rule" that was used to arrest transfems in New York in the mid-20th century wasn't an actual law. It was a rule of thumb that if you were wearing at least 3 items that matched your AGAB, you wouldn't be arrested for "cross-dressing." Thing is, there was no specific law against the practice nor requiring 3 items, but it became the effective practice of the NYPD, making it a de facto law.

It’s kinda bonkers to me that the way anti-trans bigots respond ...

2025-12-10T19:31:18Z

It’s kinda bonkers to me that the way anti-trans bigots respond to finally learning that trans men exist is to just amen their anti-trans laws to do exclusively transmisogyny instead. Like, they could have responded by reflecting and realizing how stupid their beliefs were, but nope, just double down on the bigotry instead.

Thing is, trans men and trans mascs will still be targeted for violence through these laws. Just like bigots don’t care that Sikhs aren’t Muslims when they do an Islamophobia, they don’t parse which flavor of trans a person is. Since the anti-trans bathroom laws started going into effect, many of the high profile cases of people being harassed and assaulted when entering a “women’s” restroom have been transmasculine people, with their perpetrators often calling them trans women. Similarly, when a trans boy was forced to compete in wrestling against girls, his image has been spread around with people claiming he’s a trans girl cheating at sports.

Basically, they will make all our lives unlivable in the end, even if their specific bigotry is targeted at transfeminine people primarily.

https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/new-hampshire-bill-would-create-first

I’m kind of loving the moment in horror we’re in where ...

2025-12-01T03:14:33Z

I’m kind of loving the moment in horror we’re in where everyone is a monster fucker. Like, since Shape of Water, it feels like more and more directors have decided that we can all be horny for monsters…and we are.

This brought to you by reflecting once more on Del Toro’s once more doing this with Frankenstein…cause that twinky monster can get it 😅😅😅

If you have ever had a social psychology experiment told you as a ...

2025-11-28T17:28:04Z

If you have ever had a social psychology experiment told you as a poignant story that illustrated a theory or idea, it has probably been debunked.

In the last 5 - 10 years, almost every famous 20th century social psychology experiment has been revealed to have been not reproducible, misrepresented, misinterpreted, or straight up wrong. This list includes:
-The Standford Prison Experiment
-The Milgram Experiment
-When Prophecy Fails

If you’re in the US and can: go to a protest today and make a ...

2025-10-18T16:33:39Z

If you’re in the US and can: go to a protest today and make a racket! Go out and make sure there is not quiet acquiescence to what is happening.

Some of us are not in a position to, whether because of immigration status, disability, or other reasons. Get out there for us please even if you’re on the fence for yourself.

I’m going to reply once and not going to engage further because ...

2025-10-15T20:18:55Z

In reply to nevent1q…mc5c
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I’m going to reply once and not going to engage further because you seem to be arguing with someone in your head and not us.

Up thread, the whole point was that testosterone and masculinity is not inherently bad or violent, and that was the point. Ain’t none of us arguing men are bad for having a libido (hint hint: several of us are trans women and lived being seen as men for decades and actively parse the difference), but for some reason you’ve decided that’s something we’re saying? So who is it you are actually arguing with?

And the reason you might think that way is exactly in what you just said: “men shouldn’t feel bad for wanting to do stuff TO women”. Not WITH but TO….that’s it right there. Woman aren’t objects, we’re people. The men who want to do things WITH women will often find straight women who very much want to do things with them too. The ones who want to do things TO us are the ones who give off vibes that they don’t differentiate between sex and violence, and that’s something we pick up on and want nothing to do with. So, if you have folks saying you’re being creepy, I suggest reflecting on that and doing the work on yourself to learn how to do things with people and not to them.

Anywho, going to mute but best of luck in unpacking your baggage.

yeah, I think that plays the double role, especially for white ...

2025-10-15T15:26:03Z

In reply to nevent1q…p8tp
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yeah, I think that plays the double role, especially for white cis women, of making themselves inherently the victim and innocent…while they do awful shit to BIPOC and trans people. Like, the number of white cishet women I’ve met who have a shitty man in their life that they enable in a “it can’t be helped” way and claim the eternal role of victim while saying they are feminists just boggles my mind. I’m always like…can you see what you’re doing? Hetero and cis-normativity are a hell of a drug.

And of course, there’s the transfems who engage in this, as you’ve mentioned too. Comes from a slightly different place but does the same thing in the end. Maybe we stop blaming biology for bad actions and blame the people and systems that create and enable those actions? Please friends?

but if we can’t blame biology for the misbehavior of many men, ...

2025-10-15T15:18:45Z

In reply to nevent1q…vvtt
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but if we can’t blame biology for the misbehavior of many men, then it’s almost like they have a choice in the matter and a responsibility to do better….clearly, you’re not a man, so we can’t listen to you. 😜

I actually would bet a huge bit of the motivated reasoning for bioessentialism on this stuff is for shitty men and the people of other genders who enable them to deny responsibility for their actions.

We lost a beautiful light today that has been an important leader ...

2025-10-14T02:46:24Z

We lost a beautiful light today that has been an important leader in our community for so long. Thinking of Miss Major tonight, hoping some day we can all honor her life and legacy by making the world should fought for a reality.

https://www.them.us/story/miss-major-griffin-gracy-obituary-dies-78-stonewall-trans-activist

Transphobia often gets discussed as personal attitudes or ...

2025-10-10T18:28:22Z

Transphobia often gets discussed as personal attitudes or explicit anti-trans policies, but the wider cis world often doesn’t see or understand the structural transphobia that impacts our lives. A big one that is impacting me again: discontinuities.

When we transition, our life course, narratives, and social network experience many different discontinuities. An area where this can have big material consequences is in a professional or academic career.

When applying to a job or a university, there is an assumption that a person can list the places with their relevant experience and then those people can be contacted and asked about the person. Well, if your name has changed, as well as your gender identity and presentation, there’s a whole host of problems this introduces. For example, I can list one of the places I worked or went to school before transition, but then I also have to out myself as trans and give my deadname to the place I’m applying to if they might reach out to check if I worked or graduated from there. Additionally, that then outs me to those people from the past as trans, who may be transphobic and give me a bad reference.

Additionally, a lot of us face transphobia after coming out and may be more likely to be laid off or fired as a result. So then one of our only potential references that knows us by our current name and identity may be much less likely to give us a good recommendation. We’re basically put at the whims of those that employ us in ways that creates extra layers of intimidation and pressure, and may lead to us putting up with transphobia or worse due to that precarity.

In my experience, I went from having a stellar resume that demonstrated 15+ years of experience with lots of recommendations and references to my resume looking either a lot like someone who only has 1 or 2 years of experience or I have to out myself and also share the ways I’ve been mistreated since transition. All of which makes a potential employer hesitant to hire us.

There is a reason why there is a trans wage gap that is bigger than most other wage gaps, and why a fuck ton of us have to turn to sex work to pay the bills.

FRIENDS I have a very very important request: Are there any good ...

2025-10-09T03:32:43Z

FRIENDS I have a very very important request: Are there any good novels about bisexual and/or lesbian werewolves?

I have a few points of advice for people migrating from bluesky: ...

2025-10-06T20:42:46Z

I have a few points of advice for people migrating from bluesky:
1) I am an unhinged clown.
2) Werewolves is bisexuals.
3) The cult meets on Wednesday nights, bring your shark onesie.

Okay, which one of you transes or furries was driving around San ...

2025-10-02T01:42:02Z

Okay, which one of you transes or furries was driving around San Diego today? I saw a Subaru with the license plate that said: UWUB4RU

I wish my adhd butt could actually buy and eat fresh vegetables ...

2025-09-28T01:12:42Z

I wish my adhd butt could actually buy and eat fresh vegetables before they go bad. 😅😅😅

I love red leaf lettuce and spinach…but I usually don’t remember to eat even half of it before it goes bad. Fresh tomatoes, literally one of my favorite foods in the world, but half of what I buy will probably go bad (yes, if I buy 10, 5 will go bad and if I buy 2, 1 will go bad). Any vegetable that requires cooking - I’m going to buy you with big ambitions and plans, but you’re going to be nasty and brown before I remember to cook you.

I’ve switched to mostly frozen and canned veggies now in my cooking, because it’s the only way I can manage to avoid wasting food and actually have vegetables available when I get around to cooking with them. Such is adhd life.

do any of these people speak up on people being fired left and ...

2025-09-26T22:25:20Z

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do any of these people speak up on people being fired left and right for being critical of fascists? I’m going to bet they conveniently don’t notice that happening

yeah, it’s so fucked and terrifying thinking about what has ...

2025-09-26T16:15:00Z

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yeah, it’s so fucked and terrifying thinking about what has happened to people

From: @npub1kft…akf5 ...

2025-09-26T15:03:53Z

From: MikeDunnAuthor (npub1kft…akf5)
https://kolektiva.social/@MikeDunnAuthor/115271014574318628

Okay, rant over. Just...if you are in psychology, please take at ...

2025-09-21T20:46:34Z

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Okay, rant over. Just...if you are in psychology, please take at least one anthropology class....I'm begging you.

Or go make friends with an anthropologist even! We love to infodump about cultures and social structures! It's like...literally what the entire field is about.

Case in point: "Throughout evolutionary history, women have ...

2025-09-21T20:45:33Z

In reply to nevent1q…58yf
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Case in point:

"Throughout evolutionary history, women have not been as physically capable as men of fighting off aggressors; also, because they have had primary responsibility for their offspring, they have not always been able to run from an aggressor."

Um...so any anthropologist will point you towards the hundreds of hunter-gatherer and small agricultural societies they have studied that suggest low rates of intra-community aggression, high rates of EVERYONE taking care of children, and being much more likely to be matriarchal or matrilineal in structure. This was most of our evolutionary history before large-scale, settled agriculture and the formation of states. Like....they are picturing Hobbes' State of Nature and not any real time or place that has ever existed!!!

The emphasis on differences in "physical capabilities" hit much harder with the invention of the plow and other types of activities that required more upper-body muscle. Archeological studies suggest much greater exposure to human violence after settled agriculture begins too, with the formation of states leading to full-on war instead of symbolic inter-clan fights or livestock raids.

Heck, there are even settled cultures like the Mosuo where men are more likely to be taking care of children!
(https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mosuo)

Scholarly complaint: Psychologists need to stop talking about men ...

2025-09-21T20:38:17Z

Scholarly complaint: Psychologists need to stop talking about men and women like they are different species.

Psychologists, when talking about demonstrated gender differences, have a really bad habit of physiologically essentializing the differences and talking about men and women not like part of a spectrum of diversity of human embodiment and experience, but like they are different animals. It makes me want to scream.

This also is where we often see evolutionary psychology as a discipline go completely off the rails into misogyny land. Whenever I read the "hypothesis" an evolutionary psychologist puts forward on gender differences, it sounds like they have never spoken to an anthropologist. Instead, their assumed evolutionary pressures look more like the Flinstones than anything that actually ever happened. Like, my colleagues in social science, just go across the hall and speak to an anthropologist for 10 minutes please!!!

This is a little too real. 😅😅😅 I have both contacted and ...

2025-09-20T07:25:41Z

This is a little too real. 😅😅😅

I have both contacted and been contacted in this exact manner.

Also, we have better opsec than the current secretary of war, so…like…they’ll probably be baffled and give up in like 5 minutes 🤣

From: ‮ɹɐqqᴉʇ (npub1gy4…4s7y)
https://infosec.exchange/@ra6bit/115234244078840933

I should also note: cuddles and snuggles are clearly communism.

2025-09-17T20:27:56Z

In reply to nevent1q…9nhn
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I should also note: cuddles and snuggles are clearly communism.

Hot take: masturbation and sex are praxis. Just going to cook ...

2025-09-17T18:09:11Z

Hot take: masturbation and sex are praxis.

Just going to cook this a bit: one of the greatest pleasures and joys of living in a human body is available to us literally at any time and for free. And it can be enjoyed in abundance. Literally, you can just masturbate any time, day or night, and have a bit of happiness. This is why capitalist societies are reinforced by religious and cultural ideologies that want to criminalize, pathologize, and make you feel guilty for both masturbation and sex. It can be available for free and without profit to anybody, and can’t be fenced off like the public commons to be rented or sold.

This is also why they work so hard to make us think that we need a partner who has rare and special traits to feel satisfied with sex. They want us to desire something they can turn into a commodity. So even racist beauty standards and fatphobia serve the capitalist effort by trying to undermine our sexual satisfaction. But all one has to do is have a single fun sexy time with a partner that isn’t considered conventionally “sexy” to realize it’s bullshit.

Literally, sexual pleasure and joy, whether by oneself or with a partner, remains an abundant resource for satisfaction that is free and relatively easy to accomplish. Everything that feeds into trying to restrict, undermine, and make us feel guilty for it will fail by simply experiencing this pleasure and joy.

Masturbation and sex are anti-capitalist praxis. And yes, if someone flirts with me by suggesting we overthrow corporations with our genitals, I will be extremely giddy and turned on. 🤭

I will never pretend I am not happy that a man that spent the ...

2025-09-16T01:50:33Z

In reply to nevent1q…y9q7
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I will never pretend I am not happy that a man that spent the last decade saying me and my family should be murdered by the state or an angry mob bit a bullet. It is a genuine bit of relief knowing that he is not able to spread more hate and calls for violence against me and the people I love. The world is better with him in the grave.

One advantage of being unemployed is that I can call Charlie Kirk ...

2025-09-16T01:23:49Z

One advantage of being unemployed is that I can call Charlie Kirk a vomit-slurping, shitfucking fascist bootlicker that literally experienced the consequences implied by a life of minimizing public shootings and encouraging political violence against BIPOC, religious minorities, and LGBTQ+ people.

I wish there was an afterlife so he could just watch the scene of his own death over and over again to know how much this was poetic justice - and see how people laughed at him. And I hope every young MAGA person wrapped up in this fascist movement by the shithead is now thinking twice about being a fascist bootlicker.

I mean…why not both? 🤭

2025-09-14T16:32:17Z

In reply to nevent1q…w93g
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I mean…why not both? 🤭

I love that posts on the fediverse are like: -radioactive things! ...

2025-09-12T05:29:04Z

I love that posts on the fediverse are like:
-radioactive things!
-boobs
-obscure but deeply fascinating hyperfocus
-Linux
-someone talking about how happy they are to have or get rid of boobs
-fuck fascists in the eyeballs

This is basically what I want from my friend groups

"A Christian...A man who calls out through his deeds: ...

2025-09-11T02:47:08Z

"A Christian...A man who calls out through his deeds: 'Come to me, I shall redeem you!' ... A divine element works in him. making him the man he is and causing him to act in this way and no other. One man must set an example and offer himself up as a sacrifice!"

Does this sound like what people are saying about Charlie Kirk? Well, that was Goebbels eulogizing their own assassinated martyr, Horst Wessel. Wessel was a Nazi SA member who was assassinated by communist party members in 1930. Wessel was propagandized into a martyr and his death was used to pull in sympathy for Nazis.

Today would be a good time to get familiar with what happened after Wessel died because they are using the exact same playbook here right now.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Horst_Wessel

the man has literally called for killing trans people on national ...

2025-09-11T01:13:27Z

In reply to nevent1q…dwj4
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the man has literally called for killing trans people on national tv…yeah, not gonna mourn the shiteater anymore than I would David Duke. The Wannabe Hitler Youth might even struggle to be as effective for a while, which would be helpful.

New FORBIDDEN QUEERIES just went up on my alt: ...

2025-09-08T23:41:52Z

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To all the trans folks feeling like they are awful, unloveable, ...

2025-09-07T02:22:05Z

To all the trans folks feeling like they are awful, unloveable, and/or undesirable tonight, I am sending offers of virtual hugs and metaphorical hot cocoa. You deserve care and the kind of attention that would feel good for you 🫂🫂🫂🫂☕️☕️☕️☕️

besides, I’m a white trash girl and I ain’t gonna let anyone ...

2025-09-02T02:08:42Z

In reply to nevent1q…p8ha
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besides, I’m a white trash girl and I ain’t gonna let anyone tell me how to grammar my sentences, thank you very much!

Nostr event nevent1qqszgvwjfvl8jtuq8uq35nxxqhcmz2dtmeymc9ymh0jr3ec2e5fcj5qzyq6n9cu8dhwjj2fncw3eplmlfnepdnksyyn53grdt4lnxn2hd02zqee6ufy

2025-08-30T18:22:30Z

So…um…anyone feel like overthrowing the bourgeoisie today?

What does the immediate motive for the Minneapolis school ...

2025-08-30T17:41:21Z

What does the immediate motive for the Minneapolis school shooting seem to be?

An extremist fandom subculture.

For those that don’t know, there is an online subculture that practices obsessive fandom of mass shooters. They call themselves TCC for “True Crime Community” (not the general sense of the term of people who watch or listen to true crime shows). Many have said the shooter’s videos and journals seem incoherent or contradictory because they are looking for an ideology, but that’s because it’s not about ideology in the classic sense. This subculture obsesses about school shooters and mass shooters, creates memes about them (the shooter’s guns and journals had tons of internet memes, including the Loss meme), they cosplay as school shooters (this is why there are kmfdm stickers and shirts in the shooter’s videos, and they talked about putting together a school shooter cosplay), and they encourage each other to imitate the shooters by doing one.

It’s of note that this subculture actually is more likely to produce shooters who are women or of other minority groups. This shooter referenced on her gun a girl who committed a school shooting that was a part of TCC. There have been other women and girls who have attempted or made plans to coming out of this space. And there was also a “Black white supremacist” who committed mass violence too from TCC.

It also appears that the shooter was exposed to or spent time around anti-trans detransitioner rhetoric. They were no longer identifying as a woman, and were talking about detransitioning because they can’t ever “actually” be a girl. If anything, this shows how anti-trans rhetoric and policies feed hopelessness and isolation, making individuals more vulnerable to radicalization.

All in all, this points to the desperate need to continue creating spaces that bring in and help young marginalized folks connect and feel like they have a life and a future. Isolation and hatred make them vulnerable and we can do something about that.

What I shared above is based upon reporting by cool zone media on the It Could Happen Here podcast, which is run by multiple journalists who have spent a decade reporting on mass shooters.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/it-could-happen-here/id1449762156?i=1000723977829

Yesterday I started community college classes, washed the car, ...

2025-08-26T21:56:18Z

Yesterday I started community college classes, washed the car, and did a follow up message with a doctor after not getting a response in 3 months. Today, I applied for another job, showed up to class again, and worked out at the gym. And I took my night and morning meds on time!

Let’s see if I can make it a three day streak of being an almost functional adult 😅

When I have a solid income again, I want to plan a road trip to ...

2025-08-21T19:04:36Z

When I have a solid income again, I want to plan a road trip to visit the graves of every shithead who helped put this current wave of theocratic fascism in power - Pat Robertson, Jerry Falwell, James Dobbs, etc.

It just so happens that in many of the states they are buried in, it’s also a crime for me to use a public restroom as a trans person. So I will make sure to “pay my respects” at each grave. 🤭

PLEASE help me make rent? And help a trans woman become a ...

2025-08-19T22:05:10Z

PLEASE help me make rent? And help a trans woman become a therapist?

Goal: $23/$500

So I have a big favor to ask: help me make part of my portion of the rent this month. My total portion of the rent is more than this, but my partner can cover the rest as long as I can meet $700 a month. My unemployment insurance will run out soon, so I'm trying to stretch it for a few months, and I can do that with your help!

I am preparing to apply to graduate schools for a masters in social work or a masters in clinical psychology. I am also working with limited spoons from disability and burnout after losing my job earlier this year. With your support, I can focus on my grad school applications and still have capacity to return to writing regularly! If I can't meet this goal, I will need to find at least a part-time job and probably be too stretched thin to write again.

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Had a big stop-me-in-my-tracks moment during therapy this ...

2025-08-05T04:08:57Z

Had a big stop-me-in-my-tracks moment during therapy this morning. My therapist suggested using an Internal Family Systems lens to something we've been working on.

Until recently, I used to have a nightly habit of saying horrible things to myself as I fell asleep, "You are such a burden, and so off-putting. You are always going to be alone and you don't belong, you know? You really should give up"....that kind of thing. I jokingly call them "nightly negations" instead of "daily affirmations," cause that is basically what I'm doing with roughly an equivalent negative impact on my mental health.

Well, in talking it out, I said I didn't really understand what this part of me has been trying to do. When part of me used to say I couldn't transition because I would be an ugly woman or whatever other justification to tear me down, I realize now that was part of me trying to protect myself from the danger in expressing femininity or queerness that came from past dangers and traumas. But these "nightly negations" didn't seem to link to any particular trauma, so it just didn't make sense to me and I couldn't see what it was doing.

Then my therapist said, "Maybe she's trying to make sure you don't feel safe so that you stay on guard." And that stopped me in my mental tracks. It was a big "oh fuck" moment.

My negative self-talk doesn't happen when there is a crisis or I am actually in danger, it happens most when life quiets down and I am actually safe. But this part of me is stuck in a place of danger and is trying to make sure I don't stop being vigilant so we can stay safe from the threats lurking in trusting people or feeling secure in relationships.

...and now I am calling this part of myself Batman. 😅

1/2

Also, I realized over the last month of explaining my transition ...

2025-07-18T04:00:38Z

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Also, I realized over the last month of explaining my transition to cis people that it’s kind of weird we usually don’t usually mean orchiectomy or hysterectomy included in the term “bottom surgery.”

Like, it’s surgery down there….and testicles are on the bottom of the dang thing! Yet we use bottom surgery as a euphemism for vaginoplasty and metoidoplasty/phalloplasty almost exclusively, right?

Cause like, I don’t feel like I’ve had “the surgery” and if I tell people I had bottom surgery, they are going to expect a very different genital status. And I kind of like blowing cis people’s minds by being someone who everything they can see was thanks to hormones and genetics, busting some of the myths and assumptions they have about trans bodies, and the orchi just feels like the removal of hormone factories to an extent.

I don’t know…just some meandering thoughts I keep coming back around to that may not really mean anything. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Come this time next year, there is a non-zero chance that the ...

2025-07-18T03:54:18Z

Come this time next year, there is a non-zero chance that the majority of my transfem friends have had bottom surgery. Is it going to be like being the one committed single girl at the wedding or the one friend who doesn’t have or want kids, it’ll just be me and like two other girls at the transfem party hanging out at the mostly intact bits table? 😅

Okay, to be fair, this might be what my few remaining monogamous friends feel as the majority of us embrace polyamory. Though, to be fair, the reason they are all sitting together is the rest of us need a whole table for our polycule. 🤣

(To be clear, none of this is negative, just feeling silly about where things are at this point in my trans community)

After almost two weeks with my cishet friends, I had to recharge ...

2025-07-12T22:40:33Z

After almost two weeks with my cishet friends, I had to recharge my gay. Gay successfully imbibed:

Apparently they just removed bisexuals from Stonewall’s federal ...

2025-07-10T23:00:53Z

Apparently they just removed bisexuals from Stonewall’s federal monument history page. Of course, they already removed references to trans people too. Are they literally going to remove us one letter at a time?

Next is lesbians and then the gays and then it’s just this mysterious place that is a monument for no reason at all. Blegh.

On Tuesday, I was able to realize a dream I’ve had for so long: ...

2025-06-26T07:48:38Z

In reply to nevent1q…7ph5
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On Tuesday, I was able to realize a dream I’ve had for so long: I was able to wear yukata and be pretty while enjoying a temple and delicious food!

It was so much fun being in that Yukata shop with other girls and the aunties fussing over us, getting us all prettied up. And sharing it all with one of my oldest friends. oh, and also…I WAS A PRETTY GIRL LOOKING GIRLY AND CUTE IN A YUKATA IN THE SUMMER!?!

#NatsukashiiNatsu

Ended up talking with several Japanese lesbians last night and ...

2025-06-26T07:42:52Z

In reply to nevent1q…rgll
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Ended up talking with several Japanese lesbians last night and getting a sense of how lesbian community works here. Tonight I’m meeting up with a an old friend, but might pop back over to Agit in Nichome again tonight. Such a great vibe!

#NatsukashiiNatsu

Oh my gosh, I found a Gacha machine with Ranma 1/2 mini plushies! ...

2025-06-26T07:39:24Z

Oh my gosh, I found a Gacha machine with Ranma 1/2 mini plushies! Sooooo cute!

#NatsukashiiNatsu

Welcome to the neurodivergent nightmare that is the Japanese ...

2025-06-24T03:34:21Z

In reply to nevent1q…9t7l
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Welcome to the neurodivergent nightmare that is the Japanese megastore: Don Quixote. Not pictured is the cacophony of sound from every direction. This is one of the more tame corners of the store, if you would believe it. 😅

#NatsukashiiNatsu #Alt4me

Something really nice to see: I’m seeing a lot more Black folks ...

2025-06-24T03:27:40Z

In reply to nevent1q…xkfk
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Something really nice to see: I’m seeing a lot more Black folks and people of color are here in Japan than in the past. Both as tourists and just living and working here. It feels like Tokyo at least is really opening up and becoming a more international and welcoming city than even before. And it makes me glad more BIPOC are able to feel comfortable visiting and living here compared to how it used to be.

This is how the straights survive in Japan. They learned to ...

2025-06-24T01:57:32Z

In reply to nevent1q…ql2u
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This is how the straights survive in Japan. They learned to distill gayness into a can, so they can get by when they would otherwise wither from a lack of fabulousness. 🤭

Powering up my gayness while #TransOnTrains #NatsukashiiNatsu ...

2025-06-24T01:49:13Z

In reply to nevent1q…4n3d
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Powering up my gayness while #TransOnTrains #NatsukashiiNatsu

Second day in Tokyo and still doesn’t feel real! So dang happy ...

2025-06-23T22:16:02Z

Second day in Tokyo and still doesn’t feel real! So dang happy to be back. Part of me feels like it is being untangled and becoming more whole again. Makes me really happy. 🥰

Now to get cleaned up for the day so I can meet up with my friend to wear yukata and go to the shrine and do cute things I never got to do as a boy!?!

#NatsukashiiNatsu

Our trans elders called themselves transvestites, queens, ...

2025-06-03T13:46:14Z

In reply to nevent1q…v6rf
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Our trans elders called themselves transvestites, queens, fairies, and homosexuals, and if you can’t sit down today and have a conversation with them without trying to correct them, you need to fix that.

Friendly reminder: ACAB means the language and tone police too. ...

2025-06-03T13:44:00Z

Friendly reminder: ACAB means the language and tone police too. Kill the cop in your head.

Feeling cute, might seize the means of production later

2025-05-29T21:43:16Z

In reply to nevent1q…w58k
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Feeling cute, might seize the means of production later

Can I haz means of production…as a treat?

2025-05-29T21:42:33Z

In reply to nevent1q…f4ws
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Can I haz means of production…as a treat?

So um….anyone seizing the means of production this afternoon? ...

2025-05-29T21:40:17Z

So um….anyone seizing the means of production this afternoon? Feeling bored, seems like a thing to do 🤷🏼‍♀️

Power. SA and DV is always about power. People often assume this ...

2025-05-26T05:11:56Z

In reply to nevent1q…t8qr
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Power. SA and DV is always about power. People often assume this means it’s about a person getting pleasure from domination and control of others. It can be, but it often isn’t even that. Frequently, it’s about the power in our systems that structures vulnerability to this violence.

Why are lgbtq+ youth more likely to experience SA and DV? Because predators and perpetrators know that the system will enable that violence and protect them. Why are the poor more likely to be victims of crime of all kinds? Because the structures of our society make it crystal clear that violence against the poor will be treated differently than violence against the rich, and we structure work, material goods, and more in a way that requires them to make themselves structurally vulnerable. Why do fascists want to make women more dependent upon men? Because that constructed dependency will enable their SA, DV, and other acts.

It’s also worth noting that many people who have been victims themselves will be perpetrators against others they have power over because power teaches us to be violent.

Huh, weird, I guess I never actually said it until what someone ...

2025-05-26T04:57:23Z

Huh, weird, I guess I never actually said it until what someone said prompted me today, but um, yeah, I’m a survivor of an abusive household, have had members of my family be both victims and perpetrators of DV, I have been sexually harassed in public in front of others and no one did anything, and there are other things that I will not share publicly because that’s my choice. And I have sat with more survivors on crisis hotlines than most people would believe.

In case it still needs to be said that we all know survivors and need to fucking put a stop to SA and DV. And that is done through community work and changing the structures of power that make people vulnerable to this violence. That is my professional opinion as someone with a bunch of related expertise too.

Open source friends: are there any good substitutes to google ...

2025-05-10T20:27:24Z

Open source friends: are there any good substitutes to google docs?

I was debating just using Dropbox or something, but I’m wanting to be able to work on writing on the same document in the cloud from multiple computers. May also need to be able to work simultaneous with others on the same document.

I am debating how I can make a living doing community work going ...

2025-05-10T18:05:32Z

I am debating how I can make a living doing community work going forward. I’m burnt out on the typical nonprofit, and most of those doing lgbtq community organizing are being gutted and limited on so many fronts. And government jobs are also being cut left and right, from federal to local levels.

I am damn good at community organizing and service work, but how the hell do I pay rent with that? If I have to do something else with the majority of my spoons, then how could I muster the energy to do that during free time?

And mutual aid, while it is the mode I want to do more organizing under, seems unlikely to be able to meet my material needs in the next year or two.

So the only idea I’m kicking around now is maybe going back to doing some form of community consulting work. Maybe I can offer my services running workshops and helping people build the beginnings of their own mutual aid networks and groups? I could provide training in the skills people need, education on important concepts and frameworks, and such?

Either that, or find some magical way to make enough money writing or creating content of some sort. Which seems foolhardy. Ugh