2026-10-31T17:29:32Z https://nostr.now Loose Leaf Queer https://nostr.now/npub1rmp20t23hrz6e3v94h4q2ca262apku0e9rx5h2tzclaknmjktxtqgctd8w https://stockroom.wandering.shop/accounts/avatars/109/354/856/845/639/606/original/760bf5d6a7f6015e.jpg https://stockroom.wandering.shop/accounts/avatars/109/354/856/845/639/606/original/760bf5d6a7f6015e.jpg https://nostr.now/nevent1qqspqhxkzuc4hlnqva8tx3ddtxprms6w7295hvlla6jrt45fetjyenqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevzumz6h It is the equinox<br/>And Hobbit Day<br/>So I wish you many fine foods<br/>And may the hair on your toes never fall out. 2026-09-22T12:47:16Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsg9zd0ajhhzz4pfkhmym4tp8qtdz9wkp3j30h07kmcxwz5qmkerlszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev9xss2q Aaaaaa that Zelda Nintendo direct was for us Elder Millennials. 2026-09-08T14:51:48Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs9rxvlz40mwsxdm25773e78jv44vy9qm582l906cvtlgjhn7jj9sczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev9zx8f8 All suited up.<br/> <img src="https://stockroom.wandering.shop/media_attachments/files/117/116/747/160/003/742/original/00bfe8aa5c3d5c34.jpg"> <br/> 2026-08-18T13:29:43Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsp80pq624fsjwccdwmd0ex7kme8kgr73j2pps0ltjky3n2y4lxu4gzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevemwqvs IT IS...TIME....<br/>For the Queer Winter Poetry of 2026. <br/>YOU identify on the queer spectrum, want to receive a typewriter-written poem in December-ish of 2026, and have been waiting all year to sign up. <br/>#QueerlyBeloved <br/>The Link:<br/><a href="https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfMfDEfuC6VtsloyIxL_3Qg8oNDW_ck9Ru0OOeb25hS--9ZsA/viewform">https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfMfDEfuC6VtsloyIxL_3Qg8oNDW_ck9Ru0OOeb25hS--9ZsA/viewform</a> 2026-07-13T14:38:43Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs8tcfqukn4f0l0jrgahvzrndr56v4m8e5efyhvcu749vzn0rwc2vqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevrk5wve I know that observing the world is really scary right now. But can you smell this photograph? <br/><br/>#GardenVarietyQueer<br/> <img src="https://stockroom.wandering.shop/media_attachments/files/116/365/261/884/390/666/original/ea9b8a8f96d7ea0f.jpg"> <br/> 2026-04-07T20:18:02Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs8wf6t9ph34k3qw9406737j750y7a5pch7yqx3nas3mal0r77ux0gzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevj2zh7z Today, I&#39;m going to rent a large small wood chipper.<br/>There&#39;s mulch to be done. <br/>#GardenVarietyQueer 2026-03-20T14:15:02Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsw3t4kxdfngn7a2z07t3ejj4ldeej6dh6fykz7ypw86cy6l7w65agzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev8frzxn My greenhouse is keeping the citrus alive, y&#39;all. Some day I will find out of these from-seed (bergamot) citrus are bitter orange, or some other variant. I suspect bitter orange.<br/><br/>And tomato cuttings. And herbs. So many good things. <br/><br/>Soon (in April), it&#39;ll be working on hundreds of starter seeds. <br/>Soon, I&#39;ll be growing enough basil cuttings to hand them out to my neighbors. 2026-01-29T17:15:25Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsg7n03nverrdz8rjhwya5asyqzankghwc5nlu2mwztumr4y2r6uvgzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevvltp9r Want to see something silly and good I did? <br/><br/>The door I built for the little free seed library broke in a wind storm a week or so ago. <br/><br/>So I cut a new door from scrap plywood, painted it with the last of my paint, and just got it back on the seed library. <br/>The seeds are back. <br/>#GardenVarietyQueer<br/> <img src="https://stockroom.wandering.shop/media_attachments/files/115/872/748/868/268/504/original/4b80d69c788f1071.jpg"> <br/> <img src="https://stockroom.wandering.shop/media_attachments/files/115/872/748/958/857/191/original/253ca728b3ed875c.jpg"> <br/> 2026-01-10T20:45:16Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs2a5q9tuls5cqvtqjxqaajnrjvffv0m6v8sz5rmhl50x799g6nwjqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev7ura9g In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsf83huvswktwsv705r8pdghm7h2xafrrljykskr303rkrq6lemeccaz9t4j'>nevent1q…9t4j</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>You&#39;re not betraying anyone by not just allowing yourself to experience love and joy, but seeking it out. <br/><br/>The human body and the human heart cannot hold up under absolute pain and terror without relief. <br/><br/>Step away. Breathe deep. Do something kind for yourself. <br/>Community is not built on rage. 2026-01-08T18:48:51Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsf83huvswktwsv705r8pdghm7h2xafrrljykskr303rkrq6lemecczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev6l96s2 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsgzr2a3wh5t2cn2m3alr05zeew2gp8ll7paapdkaupjn66nwshgxqx7scj4'>nevent1q…scj4</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>If you&#39;re on this platform and thinking that an algorithm isn&#39;t in control of what you see, or what news gets reposted, or any of that...<br/>All digital information is powered by algorithms. <br/>And rage sells papes, and keeps populations afraid. <br/><br/>You are not serving anyone but power by marinating in it. 2026-01-08T18:32:45Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsgzr2a3wh5t2cn2m3alr05zeew2gp8ll7paapdkaupjn66nwshgxqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevu55vrm In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsg5jkcwskx676dpulwu5uskaekacfrp4z6alm42wpuvwumse5k6ece6xxfk'>nevent1q…xxfk</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>In every time, but especially right now, you need to ask yourself what emotion and quick responses news (especially videos and memes etc) incite in you. <br/><br/>Is it rage? Fear? Horrible fascination? <br/>It&#39;s bait.<br/><br/>This is *not* to say horrific things aren&#39;t happening. They are. <br/>But you can&#39;t eat dogshit. 2026-01-08T18:29:44Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsg5jkcwskx676dpulwu5uskaekacfrp4z6alm42wpuvwumse5k6eczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevep6xsr I have something very important to tell you. <br/>I won&#39;t be the first, nor the last, but it bears repeating. <br/><br/>You cannot win progress out of fear. <br/>You can, and must, fight, whether afraid or no.<br/>But steeping yourself in fear, wrapping dread around you and giving in to freeze responses will not serve us. <br/><br/>The reason rage and dread move algorithms is because that&#39;s what serves power. <br/><br/>You must dance, or sing, or paint, or smell dandelions in unseasonable cement cracks. <br/>Your heart needs fuel. 2026-01-08T18:21:04Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs0mvvrfx8qdvqa63d20v2ex3rdwtkcdpvcnd7xjevu6434s7ephxgzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevvsxfas In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswku86plr482cgh6dnfmree0q7sgqt5dzy063v8yn5pnygk2rgptsfn75uk'>nevent1q…75uk</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I do enjoy mail back! It&#39;s never required, though, don&#39;t worry. The return address on the envelope is perfect. 2026-01-06T18:16:01Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsq74mcvkgak5c9z8fr7zy8qucynr7yrg0ek94uj02nq675uq38eaqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevh2npe0 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsygqxfsu4kv2mu79cezk3c8lht86330y63ds3ak96p8t7e9fpyljgaxrssr'>nevent1q…rssr</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>They are personal. I write them for the specific person. <br/>If I don&#39;t know them well enough, I go based off of where they are, and what&#39;s happening on their timeline when I&#39;m sitting down to write. <br/>So it&#39;s very much yours. 💙 2026-01-06T18:11:59Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsrghc3yvrgtnmerzcal0w8l3xcy5v5mzpfmsppdjuhauuxlgfrewczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevd4v6um Oh yeah, I guess we get more than one &#34;happy stay off the internet day to those who partake&#34; a year, now. 😮‍💨 2026-01-06T18:02:50Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsw34a9mkaa6jvf3f7wumpmxhvm8lywa3xuyymnwzy9t3qk3ejayfqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev2ade43 Today is Trans Day of Remembrance, and also my youngest child&#39;s birthday. <br/><br/>That child came out as trans/nonbinary four years ago. Since then I&#39;ve been in and out of the courts trying to defend their right to explore gender. <br/><br/>Because I need them not to become a statistic of their own birthday. 2025-11-20T15:16:38Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqszx5qq8zylyfee5rzrn9wupnc3plq76h5yeq8sy2gm72dmwfzz00qzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev8km75d In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsxdxwp8p00f4gls32r3gxvmmznpnnp274zaxtpscewnkgtk2xrv9c0kggdc'>nevent1q…ggdc</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>They aren&#39;t right, because it doesn&#39;t protect against accusations or provide any legal cover. <br/>It does, however, give a searchable tag and paint a target on your bio if someone is specifically looking for people to catfish. 2025-11-19T14:03:04Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsdyaa7fq8wjr34hndpfuwz2sq0lh8h3u87n6gvykf96qcms4v4algzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev82ygmu In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvg4a4hnzunv2nf0u2fzxtw8qvxfmwz37dd37q795wz4xsk2vyd5qc4f450'>nevent1q…f450</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>after all the arguments that have invited themselves into my comments in this thread, I think my original statement about not trusting themselves is more accurate than I&#39;d prefer. <br/><br/>I also think people, especially younger folks, don&#39;t realize that their push to have all their real life details online is absolutely something Facebook started, and it started as anti-trans rhetoric combined with a grab for data. It feels natural to them because they don&#39;t realize it&#39;s relatively new. 2025-11-19T13:55:53Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs9gceugqzzn3ut0nkj9ra8evfevvu8khdkc5g4s0sjwmhm90k8gdqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2eveveat7k3 Eve sent this to me and I&#39;m cracking up, so in honor of not explaining to them: <br/><br/>What is a &#34;cloudflare&#34;<br/> Wrong answers only. <br/>Other meme formats welcome.<br/> <img src="https://stockroom.wandering.shop/media_attachments/files/115/571/733/268/354/951/original/6698b8c845e005cc.jpg"> <br/> 2025-11-18T16:52:33Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsxde0etytgd5zf50m5hlrnwxv5pgd5cakqz5me0hayagewxg85x0czyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevs3qnc7 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsppged38486n90qyy8fphuw73ccgnlvyaycm40euce63ufgamrttchj2gfw'>nevent1q…2gfw</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Ninth:<br/>There are loads of filters, add-ons, mutes, block tools, etc, that allow people to control what they see on their timelines.<br/>Teenagers are great at using these. <br/>You aren&#39;t doing anyone any favors by trying to force them to do so, but you are making your bio look like you don&#39;t trust yourself 2025-11-17T17:09:41Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsppged38486n90qyy8fphuw73ccgnlvyaycm40euce63ufgamrttczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevd5fv08 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsxvvezcv20mkg6qlupzlmxqk9xcnyapxcne54kcvr7mck53kul2lcy0h29v'>nevent1q…h29v</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Eighth:<br/>You will never depersonalize, desexualize, or &#34;DNI&#34; yourself into a sanitary-enough version of queerness that will make the people who hate us treat you like an acceptable queer.<br/><br/>Because what they hate is the idea that people can consent, can choose, can exist outside their control. 2025-11-17T17:06:53Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsxvvezcv20mkg6qlupzlmxqk9xcnyapxcne54kcvr7mck53kul2lczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev6k9sws In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv2ku4npe0h5hgchxugtudhdwf2xl73f9k7ntq4kr4psgedask9agql57sr'>nevent1q…57sr</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>For fuck&#39;s sake, highschoolers typically avoid dating someone in a different grade, y&#39;all. C&#39;mon. 2025-11-17T17:03:56Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsv2ku4npe0h5hgchxugtudhdwf2xl73f9k7ntq4kr4psgedask9agzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevkh8v0e In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsg8ayjlfd3wgy29flq5wvlp29g6f704cr9yauaklnyvjxs3vhef9sx5fx6t'>nevent1q…fx6t</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Seventh:<br/>Allowing people to observe you in public (which the internet is) is not the same as demanding or expecting of them that they fuck you. <br/>No underaged person (who isn&#39;t an op) is going to pursue you. <br/>I want you to love yourself and also get over yourself. 2025-11-17T17:03:16Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsg8ayjlfd3wgy29flq5wvlp29g6f704cr9yauaklnyvjxs3vhef9szyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevxzmuz3 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsvnwr92azhr3j5njvpptc9nze4whhddg9gpduaqyaha8z7yeru8cglf5q5s'>nevent1q…5q5s</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Sixth:<br/>I often specifically see this in extremely young persons&#39; bios, but I also often see it in trans womens&#39; bios. <br/>I feel like y&#39;all have internalized rhetoric that your existence is predatory or your entire existence is sexual.<br/>I need you to unpack that. Forgive yourself for it. Reject it. 2025-11-17T16:58:35Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsvnwr92azhr3j5njvpptc9nze4whhddg9gpduaqyaha8z7yeru8cgzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev4gcuwk In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8hnngv0uu8zqagxmp9pjacvev29hzlc78nwp9re6glrssy2dfw0q5jl26q'>nevent1q…l26q</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Fifth:<br/><br/>Without access to reasonable adults who are *not* explicitly their parents or teachers or pastors, who are *not* trying to be creeps with kids, but who *are* visibly queer and from all different backgrounds...where are they going to learn this stuff? Wattpad? Absolutely not. 2025-11-17T16:55:16Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs8hnngv0uu8zqagxmp9pjacvev29hzlc78nwp9re6glrssy2dfw0qzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevj2wsfq In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs2k2kv4r7qqqh533a9ql9j2qp7548cyf8n27u0cce3426aj2f52pctfvhtt'>nevent1q…vhtt</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Fourth:<br/>You are operating under the (frankly real weird) assumption that any person underage who interacts with you is going to want to be sexual with you, or vice versa. <br/>Honestly, what the literal fuck.<br/><br/>Additionally, Interaction does not equal Sex, and you shouldn&#39;t be treating kids like it does. 2025-11-17T16:52:56Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs2k2kv4r7qqqh533a9ql9j2qp7548cyf8n27u0cce3426aj2f52pczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevknsa4h In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsz7rnuwlf5478n99y8ualxs3fgpfussru0ysyzcz5xh5wedjuntag4eqlyd'>nevent1q…qlyd</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Many of us who are older can specifically name the first time we were able to see People Like Us in the world, and how life changing it was for us. <br/>And with the world and the puritanical bend of the internet these days, it&#39;s right back to being hard for kids to find that. <br/><br/>Kids deserve to know that we exist, that they aren&#39;t alone, and that hard times and good times are all part of this, even/especially if you are queer. 2025-11-17T16:49:49Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsz7rnuwlf5478n99y8ualxs3fgpfussru0ysyzcz5xh5wedjuntagzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevryxkld In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8mgw67maxryevqa04unlqjudhv3dfnxyd0mt30h9h0zlhqmmmhqsh2urs9'>nevent1q…urs9</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Third.<br/>You are treating your discomfort with the idea of having to be aware of the relative maturity of people you interact with as more important than other queerfolk, especially young ones, knowing and being able to observe queer adults in the world. 2025-11-17T16:47:45Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs8mgw67maxryevqa04unlqjudhv3dfnxyd0mt30h9h0zlhqmmmhqszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevdwlcln In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsfmtu5trj36my6098ul07spw9jqu8hazvwt8s2n69dn6aswazlraqhc425h'>nevent1q…425h</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Second, though. <br/>You are contributing directly, whether on purpose or accidentally, to the idea that queerness is inherently too adult for children. Too perverse. Inappropriate.<br/>You&#39;re accepting that framing, and leaning into it. <br/>And that&#39;s how they are legislating us out of public view. 2025-11-17T16:46:00Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsfmtu5trj36my6098ul07spw9jqu8hazvwt8s2n69dn6aswazlraqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevkcfpl7 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdjdve20ace4jfulmhhutkkq555dl802znfzdypmz4z98sxmw5gssydejke'>nevent1q…ejke</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>For starters:<br/>You are, by including stuff like this in your bios/attitudes, treating consent like the job of the underaged person. <br/>It&#39;s your job, actually, not to behave inappropriately toward children. Not theirs to see your disclaimer and exit your space. 2025-11-17T16:43:52Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsdjdve20ace4jfulmhhutkkq555dl802znfzdypmz4z98sxmw5gsszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevyv2mpz I am a parent of *many* children, most of them now young adults. <br/>And I am an Elder Millennial, but was on the internet earlier than most of my cohort because my parents ran a BBS and I built my first computer when I was 11.<br/><br/>And I am asking other queerfolk to stop it with shit like &#34;Minors DNI&#34;<br/>A 🧵 2025-11-17T16:42:24Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsz8rcstp58vjnd4nk6ma896rj970wd3faa9w2la554khggxa6uu6qzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevvypg03 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsq44v06tm6c7uzsa4exkxdkdgjgl7dln6s5w0hpkuknv6w2nx3gxgsr7dyl'>nevent1q…7dyl</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Crossing my fingers for the best decade yet, maybe. 2025-10-23T16:26:56Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs046584nsn5vavdshjhzyccmjvm3ts9td5gsrgmjw6al3483rxadgzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevw3v9pt Today is my birthday, and the turn into Scorpio season. <br/>I am 40, today, and grateful to make it to this age in an era dedicated to making that not happen. 2025-10-23T14:02:52Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsy0qm2ddm87rdktzh9rfhlykdfcuxtq4gjulcrmmylfygfzwpgfyszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevcmym8r I got you this<br/>#flower #bones<br/> <img src="https://stockroom.wandering.shop/media_attachments/files/115/182/195/780/178/517/original/88019a9d2dd1a7fc.jpg"> <br/> 2025-09-10T22:11:07Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsgj8hfr6avc7l0tpecg2zhwlhxdhyv6lk69q9fealgpte5ply2j6czyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevrwzetg In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdx9dhtehwnpskzhcafuugax5kr2a48s58ymzx7qcvdppqa42ya6qmqmqum'>nevent1q…mqum</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Autism speaks and other hate groups absolutely relish the autism fearmongering happening. <br/>They&#39;re like PETA, they fundraise based on hurting the ones they&#39;re supposed to be there for. 2025-09-05T19:35:13Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsdx9dhtehwnpskzhcafuugax5kr2a48s58ymzx7qcvdppqa42ya6qzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevx7pez4 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsgdqyel80lh0lynz6tk76fxf692y7rlm7vcpkx878qqlnn059hmwcyds7nm'>nevent1q…s7nm</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I&#39;m the oldest of 6 kids (it was 5 growing up, and back to 5 now because my middle sibling died from covid in 2022).<br/><br/>But, while we&#39;re all neurodivergent as fuck, one of my siblings was nonverbal until about age 6.<br/>And her dx had to be &#34;sensory integration disorder&#34; to bypass the insurance bullshit. 2025-09-05T19:33:19Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsgdqyel80lh0lynz6tk76fxf692y7rlm7vcpkx878qqlnn059hmwczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevj463p9 A lot of y&#39;all aren&#39;t old enough to remember before the affordable care act. <br/>And a lot of y&#39;all don&#39;t realize that the only &#34;treatment&#34; for autism approved by most insurance companies is ABA, which is physical torture. <br/><br/>... but back when we were kids, an autism DX spelled coverage denial. 2025-09-05T19:31:24Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsfrtuen2cv6z7djrefgltfcgye8kg9m3xctwyc4u8eqxxxxag2kyqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevv0r44v I still have 32 seats left, but I will close registration and start writing on October 1. <br/>This is your chance for a queer, personal, typewritten poem from me in December.<br/><br/>#poetry #queer #lgbt #trans <br/><br/><a href="https://forms.gle/rg33hxgWuLWLmymB9">https://forms.gle/rg33hxgWuLWLmymB9</a> 2025-09-04T21:27:27Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsdmjp9m86wuvaymm2asjx0gj7mlaxkfqnzh6mexvv6qgmsqu97hzgzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevyyg050 It&#39;s August, and that means it&#39;s finally time for Queer Poetry In Winter!<br/><br/>This is the first year I have probably already named this collection, so strap in. <br/><br/>Want your very own hand typed queer poem in December of 2025?<br/>FAQ in the thread and I&#39;ll add more. <br/>#poetry #amwriting #queer #trans <br/><br/>Sign up here:<br/><a href="https://forms.gle/rg33hxgWuLWLmymB9">https://forms.gle/rg33hxgWuLWLmymB9</a> 2025-08-02T17:28:19Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsxrzlcxjdxauhrlnxqkl7wwkkaf5t57964atq33v0ktkk9rnqatfszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevp0kfcs In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9ggk0q5ezprf5hsf5km0emhnxc0ldflj9zqynla4uyhrr0c7wrjsutk6j4'>nevent1q…k6j4</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>The kids agree:<br/>Real<br/>Steves<br/>Always<br/>Flush 2025-08-02T15:29:44Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs8gupakpvm234e49tja7ehgd3td9528n07dkjlq7dq84jkp3mf2zczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevjvhfh3 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsgr96hdfpvksnm5yqyhx78s5yw0akhqamn0u4dr9f4jjj5fvq7mfswadrwq'>nevent1q…drwq</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Bet my 9 has ideas lol 2025-08-01T16:54:04Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsy7znkfx97w0ynz2k2nrcn6tds0w8yre9rvleul6hm8dykxdr3glszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevq8pkwr In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsg4lflw80mg57jdapnwee78e72nx34rdt78nwme7xvl6mr7kgaepsxuh9kv'>nevent1q…h9kv</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Bet you could slot in a younger meme 😂 2025-08-01T16:18:42Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsxz793d9ld9ex8f6dxghdpce4fmy0aduxg0g28tqejejcr2v3k4zqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevttghn8 I have children with ADHD, and they frequently forget to flush the toilet. <br/>And I am so annoyed to tell you that when I put the sign &#34;real skibidis flush the toilet&#34; on the back of every bathroom door, the incidents of unflushed toilets went down to nearly zero. 2025-08-01T14:52:18Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsx24l5zuwgaz8wt3vvlhj0yhjfpsl8ngm2vt2q0uzrvax3nj50s6gzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevnq05q5 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9gl9hygf97x7emrffqn0qcv2re9dqfm2u45furqe3nr3ggngartswhwq4w'>nevent1q…wq4w</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I mask everywhere, but it definitely doesn&#39;t cool you down. That&#39;s the only reason I didn&#39;t include that in this specific advice. 2025-06-24T04:01:35Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs2d3y0j0sny50wh00ykts7yy7gekvvan7xqcv2g27cn2yfawkedegzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevw2sye3 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsg4ffqm6snxsljtwhduygy58h57gevul79cllswcxv48cha6pg9esjpkd7f'>nevent1q…kd7f</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I, too, am the Prinx And the Pea 😂 2025-06-22T15:49:57Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsga7lsxejs3tvsanxyj89avy4s368cnthpf28qxpasznetjze6l6szyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevrgzvm9 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdv3zc3nsftchp7akt7w2y0ds8wetsjh9eulzsfusu7djpl4hs9cq9ssaxz'>nevent1q…saxz</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Mostly, same! But not barefoot in the &#34;sandals are better than closed toe shoes&#34; way, because grit under my feet is no thank you. 2025-06-22T15:02:29Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs9ell6n06s0l2v5tcv2h7gs3udyvvxquv3sjf7amq3yatquj6865szyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev993mzs In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsz2fc5g5p48k0lp7kd29nc6axhghjv258a9vqkz943x07jx3w3s6c0ej6gy'>nevent1q…j6gy</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>21. Cool (not cold) showers. <br/>Run cold water in a sink over your hands and/or feet. <br/>Take off the socks in the house (sorry, sock autists).<br/>Throwback to running through the sprinkler/hose.<br/>Don&#39;t do ice baths, they could impair your ability to monitor your own body responses. 2025-06-21T18:51:21Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsz2fc5g5p48k0lp7kd29nc6axhghjv258a9vqkz943x07jx3w3s6czyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev8qlwlw In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv35yv3fh49f7jcj2xs993l4u0xxg9mmmq5zjy7uetcy0ye4wycpsryhtdg'>nevent1q…htdg</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>20. Know the signs of different kinds of heat illness conditions, and how to recognize them in yourself. <br/>Heat exhaustion and sun sickness can do permanent damage, and if you&#39;ve ever had them you&#39;ll be more susceptible in the future. <br/><a href="https://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/heat-exhaustion">https://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/heat-exhaustion</a><br/><br/>Note that not sweating is A 🚩 2025-06-21T18:47:55Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsv35yv3fh49f7jcj2xs993l4u0xxg9mmmq5zjy7uetcy0ye4wycpszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev59frve In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsws76wen83hv82tx6fqsxcul9wg53vgjnpsj8net9atp792neneyczt5xf0'>nevent1q…5xf0</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>19. This might also seem weird, but use the restroom whenever you can. Your body uses a lot of extra energy storing waste and keeping it warm/cool, so this applies in all kinds of extreme temperatures. 2025-06-21T18:41:32Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsws76wen83hv82tx6fqsxcul9wg53vgjnpsj8net9atp792neneyczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevz3ml26 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8lyuhmg5spngxknsa7hkdxmw4s2lzuj9zj4l2lhxtrrjmmx75m3cqsmp39'>nevent1q…mp39</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>18. Sunscreen that actually works and is sweat/water resistant also makes it much harder for your body to cool via sweating. So it&#39;s VITAL you limit your time outside during the hottest (and most UV- intense) hours of the day. Not just 10-2 but generally 10-4. <br/>Clouds don&#39;t protect you from UV! 2025-06-21T18:37:01Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs8lyuhmg5spngxknsa7hkdxmw4s2lzuj9zj4l2lhxtrrjmmx75m3czyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev8exkad In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsr8qwwx9y09x5897yulmr05z09mln06sg358qfktp70w3flszu7gqfawszh'>nevent1q…wszh</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>17. If your area doesn&#39;t have public pools, pour all your heat-addled frustration into yelling at your city council for being racist. <br/>I&#39;m serious. 2025-06-21T18:36:41Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsr8qwwx9y09x5897yulmr05z09mln06sg358qfktp70w3flszu7gqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevvla4q5 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs206ktj9s0ekxzmkesx3tpschuaxn5ns4ral3cmvma7s34ca445sc65xxe7'>nevent1q…xxe7</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>16. Obviously you can&#39;t do this to solve *right now*<br/>But if you&#39;re living in a house (or an apartment with a balcony and only those windows), green living things help lower your localized heat vs concrete and bare materials. <br/>Grow tall stuff by your windows, in between your home and the sun. 2025-06-21T18:32:10Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs206ktj9s0ekxzmkesx3tpschuaxn5ns4ral3cmvma7s34ca445sczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevejxsqy In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9rwlvnc9f8mw4d87pnw29hswnjtcahhe34pyd9jk23gq98gtekzs0e4vm2'>nevent1q…4vm2</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>15. This might also sound silly, but your oven and clothes dryer heat your house up. So does the shower. <br/>Run all those things early in the morning or after 6pm in a heat wave. 2025-06-21T18:28:23Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs9rwlvnc9f8mw4d87pnw29hswnjtcahhe34pyd9jk23gq98gtekzszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevm3fsua In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsy0p3uapwwqvp3znsz3qzptldx35scym9mdw6fkd5fx5nteeghjaqm5cjp5'>nevent1q…cjp5</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>14. There are *unhinged* conspiracies on the internet about your sheets molding. Please wash your sheets regularly. <br/>But the coolest sleeping material is always going to be a lightweight cotton, or linen if you can afford it. &#34;Bamboo&#34; cloth is just rayon. It works until washing wears it out. 2025-06-21T18:26:51Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsy0p3uapwwqvp3znsz3qzptldx35scym9mdw6fkd5fx5nteeghjaqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev2yfeel In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsf0a92s089wgeqp5j62hm45tla24gqcjmt524scelylnv474nkecsyhnecp'>nevent1q…necp</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>13. A rolled-up wet dish towel, especially like a bar rag or other similar material, across the back of your neck and shoulders, will keep you cooler (unless you live in a swampy area).<br/>You can also get chilly pads (frogg toggs) which are spongy material made just for this, and they work great. 2025-06-21T18:23:21Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsf0a92s089wgeqp5j62hm45tla24gqcjmt524scelylnv474nkecszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevpudsph In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsdqfsu27vmz9afa3tgapyu2f8c2jjw8hdjhu3yskr6stftvr0ygscz5sgsf'>nevent1q…sgsf</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>12. A lot of people recommend blowing fans over bowls of ice. I&#39;ve had literally 0 luck with this recommendation, ever. But if you have a basement, you can chain fans to blow the naturally cooler air up. Just don&#39;t use ceiling fans at the same time for this. 2025-06-21T18:20:43Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsdqfsu27vmz9afa3tgapyu2f8c2jjw8hdjhu3yskr6stftvr0ygsczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev22phpu In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9yenf8d7xgj05tphauwqq8ty58asvvkc4dkcz6f0p89cp2k9mp6cpz0usg'>nevent1q…0usg</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>11. If your fans aren&#39;t very good at cooling, you may need to clean them. But you can also make a fan shroud to focus their air power. This is easiest with a box fan and some cardboard. <br/>The CR box crew has directions! <br/>A CR box can filter smoke, too.<br/><br/><a href="https://cleanaircrew.org/box-fan-filters/">https://cleanaircrew.org/box-fan-filters/</a> 2025-06-21T18:18:37Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs9yenf8d7xgj05tphauwqq8ty58asvvkc4dkcz6f0p89cp2k9mp6czyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevhvnqdc In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswpscm9k66mw4mvrec6smwgvx482908xx6mxdwhcvy0cwxljszy6qtmlrwq'>nevent1q…lrwq</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>10. If you&#39;re struggling to keep a lot of heat from coming through your windows, you can: <br/>- Tack up thick blankets to cover the whole window pane, to block out sun and hot air<br/>- Cover cardboard with aluminum foil and tape that in the windows foil side out to reflect sun out 2025-06-21T18:15:48Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqswpscm9k66mw4mvrec6smwgvx482908xx6mxdwhcvy0cwxljszy6qzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev2x0u7x In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsve5k3qt8pmdp2pal92cdjdynnq370f87ur23q0c205s6q38j084s744kd7'>nevent1q…4kd7</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>9. Popsicles. Seriously. Even otter pops. <br/>Chill your watermelon. Freeze your grapes. <br/>Cold dill pickles. <br/>Get those snacks in ways that will cool you off and get something in you. 2025-06-21T18:13:32Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsve5k3qt8pmdp2pal92cdjdynnq370f87ur23q0c205s6q38j084szyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevewr5ty In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsy0j2ey6umnggzap4jlps4yd4vlwjexl5ppcex7xtg5xwvg58ne8g6m0cr6'>nevent1q…0cr6</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>8. Studies (and certain cultures) show that drinking hot beverages in the drier heat actually helps you cool down. Right back to the tea, here. <br/>Here&#39;s one link, there are several: <br/><a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22574769/">https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/22574769/</a><br/><br/>(Also my own anecdotal experience) 2025-06-21T18:10:26Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsy0j2ey6umnggzap4jlps4yd4vlwjexl5ppcex7xtg5xwvg58ne8gzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev99r9f0 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsrvkds9gm8nu6n0zxa5wzavx7arul79fzmxw0njxa6avy26hswwmq8puet4'>nevent1q…uet4</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>7. White folks especially, because y&#39;all never learned this shit:<br/>If you have to go outside in intense sun or heat, loose lightweight long sleeves, hat, and pants/skirts/whatever, are actually much cooler and safer than exposed skin. 2025-06-21T18:06:03Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsrvkds9gm8nu6n0zxa5wzavx7arul79fzmxw0njxa6avy26hswwmqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevxgwp2a In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsp0stwsjrsjf5u7kkhr828carw58akhd4pxueemdwt05jh3wqptnq353f29'>nevent1q…3f29</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>6. When it&#39;s really hot, I will soak a tshirt with cold water and sit in front of a fan (usually to wind down before bed).<br/>This horrifies all of my partners, historically, so YMMV. Not for the faint of torso. 2025-06-21T18:03:42Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsp0stwsjrsjf5u7kkhr828carw58akhd4pxueemdwt05jh3wqptnqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevv6xkqj In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsfmhkzmz3uh0pg4akuyw3036qywqsncl7ne7wk8tc9uvn4zee92uqlv0a7c'>nevent1q…0a7c</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>5. Most places are cooler at night, though it&#39;s much more dramatic in the desert. If you don&#39;t have central air, open the windows when the sun goes down, get fans in the windows, and get a cross-breeze going. Close the windows early in the morning to keep the inside cool as long as you can. 2025-06-21T18:00:51Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsfmhkzmz3uh0pg4akuyw3036qywqsncl7ne7wk8tc9uvn4zee92uqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevefm5un In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqszadc8yea08q005cczj6h2xvtwrdsmg89qjf5lsjv0f976g504v7s9m4g3f'>nevent1q…4g3f</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>4. You know those flexible ice packs for sports injuries and for coolers?<br/>You can just carry those around. Take them to bed. Put them on the couch and put your feet on them to cool off. They freeze faster and stay cold longer than regular ice. 2025-06-21T17:58:20Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqszadc8yea08q005cczj6h2xvtwrdsmg89qjf5lsjv0f976g504v7szyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev666a5r In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv3kd3nal9ulnpwzc2gu9jleqqep99w4zdfpg58d985n75nm9e2lcnys3sp'>nevent1q…s3sp</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>3. This might seem obvious, but over-hydrate, especially if you&#39;re in a humid climate. Here in the desert, we have an easier time noticing when we&#39;re too dry. <br/>Drink water, tea, etc (not soda). You don&#39;t need sports drinks unless you&#39;ve got POTS or you&#39;re exerting yourself. 2025-06-21T17:56:08Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsv3kd3nal9ulnpwzc2gu9jleqqep99w4zdfpg58d985n75nm9e2lczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevhg32nw In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8utysxs0tx272js7tnrc7f6zt3vhy2q49fluwjarxnmjmhjgeungm8352y'>nevent1q…352y</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>2. Keep air moving, even if you can&#39;t open any windows. Ceiling fans are better than nothing, but hot air rises, so I find that big box fans work better. <br/>If you are using ceiling fans, make sure they&#39;re rotating counter-clockwise (they should have a switch) 2025-06-21T17:53:45Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs8utysxs0tx272js7tnrc7f6zt3vhy2q49fluwjarxnmjmhjgeungzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevjvz8r7 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqspmdl0wpycsvktaz6qh6x5uce594tn6j69zz3p6n5h6ge2mfym7ts6gd3yj'>nevent1q…d3yj</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>1. Pay attention to what direction your residence faces, and where the windows are. Cover/close all east and north facing windows in the first half of the day, and south and west starting no later than 10am. 2025-06-21T17:50:58Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqspmdl0wpycsvktaz6qh6x5uce594tn6j69zz3p6n5h6ge2mfym7tszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevuwsq02 This heat wave is absolutely bone crushing, and I&#39;m so glad that I installed central air two years ago. <br/><br/>But if you are without central air, or you&#39;re dealing with a heat wave for the first time because it&#39;s reaching areas that don&#39;t historically get this hot, here are a few tips from my years of poverty in a desert: 2025-06-21T17:50:52Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsyu58xuegvylu7sx27lram6aw4p7w92pvv8k6zsfwnn6ztqh7unuczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevzf0nt9 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9p07wzg0uy74guqt9pvc72ghu3h9lph0s6j9ywaq6lvufq40fzlc7jgx70'>nevent1q…gx70</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Laughing out loud 😂💙 2025-06-17T19:55:50Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs8kstahmf046t24y7ejw8jqsxzgugymkgw0czq63wd9a2vmylhyuszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevzr9yf7 I&#39;m making a pineapple upside-down cake for one of my kids for their birthday today. They love pineapple, and have definitely never had this cake. <br/><br/>But tell me why every recipe out there now calls this an &#34;old fashioned&#34; cake 😅 2025-06-17T19:23:26Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsv0vgdzul589ttxsl0dfqfwfkrz6646thduy6ecjx580qhwf9m3ygzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevp92xuw In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs29r2alvgcafk4r0rx4xqlemez3jwyf8hxmlpjk9uxpgl6uyxhflq3hjm0t'>nevent1q…jm0t</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>those hips in the last of the first four look fantastic! Great texturing. <br/><br/>I&#39;m making my take on garlic shrimp noodles tonight, and the bergamot will become things like bergamot citrus pepper. 2025-06-06T16:21:45Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsr43k7we06thu2xz770mtgc4m4jrh9hw50duevmhhatjzpxpvqn9szyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevzwe5t2 I&#39;m crushing some dried bergamot and defrosting shrimp this morning. <br/><br/>And it&#39;s #FlirtPackFriday <br/><br/>So tell me about your day, and something that has your joy lately. 2025-06-06T15:02:14Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsrv8g6szztsx584xxdej0c96rqjmpkqntq7u3ehjqsnhf4dsatz7czyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevuqhqe5 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs0t3z6n8p3lmq574jqg657vmhx7pexmzqtkctu0t7cepar0d8nm5syl30u9'>nevent1q…30u9</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I appreciate bisexual disasters, they&#39;re excellent.<br/>...I just am not a disaster in almost any context 😂💙 2025-05-29T22:25:18Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsgkuen2sztr3zh23uppma4h86nrk6y4jpay534trky3933xrnn5eczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevhyt6vy In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsprshuvmgej8mxge7q0wf0xm9w349cvwhyquz5y870mnv3tjt9rcqtmjw74'>nevent1q…jw74</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I am very good at practicing coming across particular ways 😂 2025-05-29T19:50:33Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsragqra5n5jhy2sn65vjz32ey7sz5jqxtt0w332yp4lpqas3qy8kczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevyxxayp In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8qdhaelmx8dkg3g2jt69nchchpjvlmmxmy3f75ay066zqya0r7aclz7mje'>nevent1q…7mje</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I don&#39;t know where they get the idea! <br/><br/>This isn&#39;t true, I do. It&#39;s because my spoken humor is very dry when I&#39;m in a professional environment.<br/>I also very often am the only non-cis dude in environments, so they always fret. <br/><br/>I also have been fully remote since 2020, so they only see me a bit. 2025-05-29T16:08:20Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsdgxvm4uwslklpge5yxv8nl7tj5g8sgdz0v5dk0cs423drjygm4wqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevdrgh3j In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8gjzvq3y7s7kphgaa982sc45n5ht4gwrhzpn806pldp5lf4dlk2chv3e6u'>nevent1q…3e6u</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Would you believe that people at work think I have no sense of humor? 2025-05-29T15:40:18Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsxmmqxje5t2a8zvyp9jrmtjgjhkgr0yxs9zl9sqj2km06ls34v45szyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevuwjgdn In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqstt2lh4ct2mvadr0efaqrc0w5ucnn4qrnmzugw47fu7wvs4r04chshe02fq'>nevent1q…02fq</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I, for one, like to indulge in the twelve year old sense of humor I never got to have. <br/>... not at work though 😅 2025-05-29T15:09:22Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsxu9wq5vtahgrc3z649jw40thwfzwa6n63rdaq22hqcfephn0v0yszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev5zwt59 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs8e4julha63nu2am6f8x8cu0qvq39txzmz02d4yv0tla6qv5g7yag0p4p5a'>nevent1q…4p5a</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>The speaker right now just said &#34;I&#39;ve seen a lot of cyber switches&#34; and I&#39;m grateful for my mask right now. 2025-05-29T14:25:56Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs8e4julha63nu2am6f8x8cu0qvq39txzmz02d4yv0tla6qv5g7yagzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevxaewlt In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsxld3dn69jnrschxr0fjyxrwqkzxlm54slyvns9waspnaqmnzz4ns0s2xap'>nevent1q…2xap</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I had a boss who got us napkins(???) with CYBER on them and I just. 2025-05-29T14:18:23Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsxld3dn69jnrschxr0fjyxrwqkzxlm54slyvns9waspnaqmnzz4nszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevqcu6wx I&#39;ve been working in tech basically my entire career, and also have been on the internet since before most people knew what that was.<br/><br/>Which means that every time someone in security calls it &#34;cyber&#34; I have to hold in a cackle. 2025-05-29T14:11:08Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs0pestld70767l8p40ea89veepy009tvzkg2n4yc7dkttcpcqlleszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevlcnlqs In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsrfpnnqasa76qandav7exzcch3t7g37pl7grymxuneyr303vlk9rchlmyw3'>nevent1q…myw3</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Neighbors had some flooding, but as far as I know, all my direct folks are OK. <br/>I reinforce my house regularly against these conditions, because I still have nightmares about my basement flood from 2013. 2025-05-26T16:07:09Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsdkc34pmvn0vd3wt5ekdgjerhw87x6q9uwv8l3s68v5r3jxgarkhczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev34dw4h In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsfx2k8uky79x3kzvpprvk769f4vxh0lshz2l3hh747waghuxsr4gq0llql0'>nevent1q…lql0</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Got another inch overnight, so I&#39;m up to 4.15&#34; so far in the last 24 hours. Even in rainy places, this is a lot. 2025-05-26T13:44:31Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsfx2k8uky79x3kzvpprvk769f4vxh0lshz2l3hh747waghuxsr4gqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevf50hc2 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs9q735de9rxse3s0prsnzmrxj88thvmp0kmch5xxhpxdjm424yuzcuhvzw4'>nevent1q…vzw4</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>&#34;But Ky, isn&#39;t rain for the desert good?&#34;<br/><br/>Well, you see. Sand and clay are not great at absorbing a lot of very fast water fall.<br/>So it&#39;s flooding everywhere right now, and it&#39;s still raining. 2025-05-25T23:40:13Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs9q735de9rxse3s0prsnzmrxj88thvmp0kmch5xxhpxdjm424yuzczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2eveva79n8f In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswjesfqxt0mky8eh4km06k3ezgvccnejxht6aky8e5c5xs40yq5vsthjkxn'>nevent1q…jkxn</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>It&#39;s also fully triple what the weather forecast expected, and even that was going to be a huge amount of rain. 2025-05-25T23:38:48Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqswjesfqxt0mky8eh4km06k3ezgvccnejxht6aky8e5c5xs40yq5vszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevehxf9m I live in a high desert, and we&#39;ve gotten 3 *inches* of rain in the last two and a half hours. <br/>That&#39;s 20% of our rainfall for a normal year. <br/>Already. 2025-05-25T23:37:06Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsxtnqkjzpjk0zkpcnpgwushg04874xeaw555yvjlc04credayg2ngzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevdnn9ej My denmate is off to a trans hostile state to see their dying but trans hostile parent, with my mom (who I&#39;m normally no contact with) taking them because she was the only one I could get to make the drive both ways. <br/>So it&#39;s just me and the kids for a bit. <br/>And yeah, that&#39;s a lot. 2025-04-28T20:58:17Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs9em2ye8v2d92glt67qktq3252y5azkgu2yer6qp27jr2r4pr8z7qzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevzlqvg6 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsq0tgzjq4e3yun5uyvh2fcyaqxx4umuk9fj350zcly3h6a6arcnqqujzmw2'>nevent1q…zmw2</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Honestly the riskiest part was when I was face to face with the squirrels, because they don&#39;t prefer to bite people but I don&#39;t prefer rabies shots. 2025-04-16T02:36:57Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsq7clpqfkuwza8j83t07pg6j49gpvt69crsj8jjkc2ysyujaq638czyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevspdv7v In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs2rfcw2ncw98s86jney8r7h7ydv7x9pw64n6hsep3xpal6tklpgtsyk7mdj'>nevent1q…7mdj</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>*I made them another home* come on, squirrels! I don&#39;t want to fight! 2025-04-16T02:33:59Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsg99c6uy6yvzdnpwd22jz7fmgvgmhd98xw6pjeuulswlq2kvwuncqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevnjnv2p In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv75aa9uu0nwnevlaeczj623dqq47q2vlac55ek4035auuk8v8lgg338az4'>nevent1q…8az4</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>They&#39;re big mad and running all over the roof though XD 2025-04-16T01:54:54Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsv75aa9uu0nwnevlaeczj623dqq47q2vlac55ek4035auuk8v8lggzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevr9x90q Fuuuuck yeah the squirrels are *out* and chicken wire is in place to keep them out! 2025-04-16T00:16:57Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsd55rs0j8nfm6c0w93w2a2hj2esqhhahpuu6zqc5l30j0mzuull6szyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev7ykz7m In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsv68ghm6723gvk3yhu8xtgwkly65n70vmut9lf4q0j9l5wrat7r8gh26c06'>nevent1q…6c06</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I didn&#39;t fall 😂💙 2025-04-10T14:21:06Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsqspua74zdsqdpt5ewacuv59lux08sjvpwsywzjwg8k69ddl3vmwqzyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevkeqq99 In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs0t3gqlyp4j6dd9xeldxd7pc4rpqkpqak9s5uh4tfecky5n3kmesq4m6w3x'>nevent1q…6w3x</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I mean, who can reasonably stay up on a ladder with only one leg for support? 😂 2025-04-10T13:22:52Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsfztsqyzmdrz78s8ta0d82xgr97gmyrq4h9l0uuc7szv879fjarxszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevfmevwa In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsxaphlh0x9t3jkjre324s2p4hac3fr872zprt3a2ehk5smgf06u4cadvgg7'>nevent1q…vgg7</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I very rarely fall off of things! 2025-04-10T05:37:56Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqspzusclyakj453n64xf72g64re3nlah3jhqwx2q8uxey9399a0qsczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevx9zysn In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsylpvauetwm6gah68zxep8xtwfkpc6jenhmj2us8wa9xfgjk449ecv5t8rr'>nevent1q…t8rr</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Oh, that&#39;s my balance leg, all my weight was on the ladder 😂😂😂 2025-04-10T03:09:26Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqswwge4jhvprw9c9z6w7pn3c0xuzhl89phg4yjl0dzd0x4xv6phtkczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevmcaqra In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs20camj7acn65je8hrejll257nx3l02eq7nct56umu0t3634cvyqg9gqa22'>nevent1q…qa22</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Oh, Eve freaks out about it all the time, but it&#39;s not like we can just not do the thing 😅 2025-04-09T23:01:29Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsd8esmewln982a9mun9hae0tweznm5vfdqtj59ffxfxkedhp3sf4czyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevscs32n In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqswelrw52pqlw0lxllz303j4c0hfvn6wl255wfy20y6a6m6788xj7ctyxlgd'>nevent1q…xlgd</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>I also climb on my roof, but the area I can get up there is flatter and easier to ladder 😅 2025-04-09T21:57:51Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs2q5s2k86htue3fumltzf6tsmkg0anquw24kg4xxw2g7glhuvhssszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevnpxurt Would y&#39;all like to see some mildly unhinged pictures of me mounting this squirrel house in my crabapple tree.<br/>They&#39;re unhinged because of how I&#39;m braced. No, I do not need advice.<br/> <img src="https://stockroom.wandering.shop/media_attachments/files/114/309/470/426/548/648/original/b50dd3ff2488c7d3.jpg"> <br/> <img src="https://stockroom.wandering.shop/media_attachments/files/114/309/470/439/256/931/original/60999368d534478f.jpg"> <br/> <img src="https://stockroom.wandering.shop/media_attachments/files/114/309/473/932/703/538/original/0c8e0db48d46bd7a.jpg"> <br/> <img src="https://stockroom.wandering.shop/media_attachments/files/114/309/474/470/028/760/original/156974f9c0a2d610.jpg"> <br/> 2025-04-09T18:48:54Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsgnf33qaase35f83c2mct7gxrkmfs4y4nvjzjzwldhp337gyw2vqszyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevhcplns In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqsqk4hvt6knxp5rfxsgn80jyepf7wrdgec433e9ceq586p8np9nkeq3nqr6e'>nevent1q…qr6e</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>Maybe! I need to grocery, alas 2025-03-18T14:18:28Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqs0v58ny9dsn508amvr5fqsl65f2ngvaw2ul4zsu92w9z7vpfmjetczyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evev23x9eg Had PT yesterday, and today I&#39;m flattened. <br/>A common cycle. 2025-03-18T13:08:11Z https://nostr.now/nevent1qqsdm85kgjnwhylaw5clsq0de7fwrzlq9nhg6unmf9twceeeqm4a06szyq0v9fad2xuvttx9skk75ptr4tft5xm3ly5v6jafvtrlk60w2evevldhdgs In reply to <a href='/nevent1qqs0554hnqvjpa7qf9w2eutmnvkyrt0sdkvj732g3er3ap4d9sjcjfs2axk9y'>nevent1q…xk9y</a><br/>_________________________<br/><br/>On every year except leap year, you&#39;re having a *nice* birthday.<br/><br/>Best wishes 💙 2025-03-10T13:45:06Z