nprofile1qy2hwumn8ghj7un9d3shjtnyd968gmewwp6kyqpqgr8tf3fsdjv33jp4akfu3v089mfd4xvmhm85zxwqu0n60c2dtfjqyv4nps (nprofile…4nps) I agree with most of what nprofile1qy2hwumn8ghj7un9d3shjtnyd968gmewwp6kyqpq0fmsw3ukhmqnnsjmalfekl6j4cucxvfl50he9dmqcna36a99nf6sdttxsa (nprofile…txsa), my main concern is for your own mental health & ability to move forward.
But there's an extra caveat in that "if you don't make it their problem" is hard to guarantee if you're still interacting with this person in any capacity (e.g., at work). Your fantasy-nostalgia thoughts are likely to leak out in the way you treat them, the same as it does with a crush — but with the difference that they're more likely to recognize it & it may aggravate their own effort to move on.
If you really don't interact with them at all, though, and are able to resist any temptation to do so, there's no more harm done (to them, anyway) than indulging in fantasies about a celebrity or some former fling from a hot tropical vacation.
But, you know, still work on it for your own sake. You deserve to love someone who loves you back. At least start imagining what that might look like. Think about the missing parts of the failed relationship, don't just skip over them.
Amelia Bellamy-Royds :progress:
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