Firmly agreed. Paraphrasing, especially as a way to communicate how one feels about a statement will almost always hit 1 and 2 and 5, with a sprinkle of 4, and notes of 3.
It really is a perfect storm of unhelpful dialog.
Perfectly legitimate to quote someone and talk about the logical conclusions, or the way the statement is perceived, or how you feel, but it's almost always unfair not to start with what someone actually said, in their own words.