3. I now learn that she settled in England at some point. She took the name of the distant part of the family, rejecting the bad father's name (as did my grandmother). It seems my uncle visited her some years back.
I recall that whenever my half-aunt was alluded to (almost always indirectly) it was with love and longing. Perhaps that's what puzzled me as a kid.
The worst is that I don't think she was told about my father's death, and clearly they were close. But I didn't know this at the time
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