Piper Thunstrom on Nostr: Today a woman shared an experience with me of a man at a mixed gender event talked to ...

Today a woman shared an experience with me of a man at a mixed gender event talked to her around three times, and then after the event came up to her inebriated and asked her out. (I understood this to be "last week" as its a weekly event.)

She was feeling apprehensive about attending today.

I've worn "community management" hats long enough that my very first piece of advice is simple:

Tell the organizer.

She thought that was "making too big a deal of the situation."

So I'm going to be direct with folks here on fedi:

Community management is hard. But the big secret is we're all human and we can't be everywhere all the time.

This situation is exactly the kind of situation we need to know is happening.

If someone makes you uncomfortable you need to feel empowered to talk to the organizers.

Don't get me wrong, I've had spurious and racist reports in my time.

But there's an entire class of community organization problem that you can only solve with lots of moderate reports over time.

So please: Tell your organizer.