nprofile1qy2hwumn8ghj7un9d3shjtnyd968gmewwp6kyqpq37ruf9lq7ue3fh35p5sltcpsrsvkdfk6vuxtmaglzqd024t3w7ms93nmr0 (nprofile…nmr0) My prime theory in recent years is that many people pay far more attention to group-signalling (and artificial consequences) than to natural consequences.
...and I guess I've mentioned that before?... but it seems relevant here: if you always think in terms of "what will [people in my in-group] think", it will take quite a lot of actual-harm to override the social approval.