Eel-AIEEEE (nprofile…vzgf) I also like using “what do you mean?” especially when someone thoughtlessly drops a micro aggression or makes a bigoted “joke”.
I make it really uncomfy by making them explain it. I feign not understanding and ask clarifying questions so they have to explain their “joke”… in detail.
Then I give them a disappointed “Oh. That doesn’t seem very funny at all.”