Oh, there's that tricky word: "choose".
The desired future that all these birthrate woe-mongers want is based on removing choice, because they have decided to stop offering incentives.
There is no incentive for women to be submissive baby machines when being a submissive baby machine doesn't even buy you safety or respect. Real life trad wives, the ones that are actually living that way, NOT for money, get treated like shit by the men around them. Where is the incentive?