The child is not "confused," & no one else could tell her who she is.
I legitimately think it's one of her greatest strengths, & Spouse independently observing that helps confirm my opinion.
I have never gotten the impression that this child wants to pretend to be anyone other than herself.
You want to talk indoctrination? ALL of my other niblings go to church every single Sunday & get told EXACTLY who they are & what will happen to them if they don't fit that mold.
That's indoctrination.