Artemis on Nostr: I DO experience that as painful alienation, but I have a hard time feeling sure ...

I DO experience that as painful alienation, but I have a hard time feeling sure that's the intent.

And when I do respond in a way that indicates I understood the hostility, I often get gaslit by being told I'm overreacting to a harmless comment.

I see now that's often because it's not ok to directly address someone else's hostility, NOT because people don't recognize that hostility was present.