lj·rk 🔜 #40C3 on Nostr: I had a terrible hot take that I won't post publicly. But the actual underlying issue ...

I had a terrible hot take that I won't post publicly. But the actual underlying issue is less of a hot take and actually a real problem:

There's no relevant enby fashion or "norms" (not even in a good way). Like, there's men's fashion and women's fashion. As an enby you can try and mix, DIY lean into something that's looking more beast than human, go wild. But: It's hard to /pass/ as an enby. It's hard to find a /style/ that matches your aesthetic that's not actually gendered. Often you are still regarded as a quirky version of your AGAB.

And I find that depressing. Few enbies pull that off, while maintaining a certain aesthetics that's completely ambiguous but not leaning into either gender. I mostly gave up on that tbqh, it's very femby vibes for me (despite leaning a bit more to futch than hyperfemme lately) but it's kinda sad that, to be regarded as enby, you basically have to plaster your whole body with the flag.

Even worse that the colorscheme of the enby flag is one of the worst. Okay, this /is/ a hot take, but a much tamer one than the original. Plus, it's objectively true.