Chris Cobble on Nostr: I’m careful that, when I try to help people, that I don’t try to change them. I ...

I’m careful that, when I try to help people, that I don’t try to change them.

I try to help them change themselves. That’s the only way changes will stick.

But ergo, they feel as if they have changed themselves and can dispense with you or feel no need for connection afterward.

You will naturally develop a care for the person you’re trying to help, but that feeling frequently doesn’t reciprocate.

It hurts, but it’s important to acknowledge a pattern and be okay with it from the outset.