Being in a friendship/partnership/... with me the biggest con and biggest pro at the same time might me being pretty organized.
I love to see my subs happy. I want to see them running free on the long leash. But when subs have a problem them leash will get reeled in and they will notice I will help. And that help might very well feel like "beating you back into shape".
I am the "on monday you will sit down, send out a job application and message me until noon" boyfriend