I am maybe using it wrong, I don't know. :(
I have kinda come to hate it. I don't think it is something I ought to need to be running a whole extra massive VPS for that's bigger than my all-other-services VPS running all my email stuff, multiple wordpress sites, other websites, etc.
I've been running my own server/services for 20+ years and Mastodon is by a very long way the worst thing I have experienced from a sysadmin PoV.