I just decided to make an engagement gift for each of my kids.
I am going to compose a short booklet of advice I wish I had before I got married that would have helped establish good Godly patterns within my marriage.
I am open to suggestions. ( Read above: Not worldly advice)
Here are some of the things I am going to have. Not in order yet. Still need depth.
Marriage is more.
100% + 100% not 50/50
Pray together
Don't use sex as a bargaining piece/ reward / punishment.
Have sex often, even when you don't feel like it. Even when only one of you feels like it.
Tithe before budgeting.
Keep expenses to less than 70% of money remaining after tithe.
Be of the same faith (and denomination)
Go to church consistently and together.
Do not cultivate opposite sex friendships.
Don't spend time alone with the opposite sex.
Go out on a date once a week.
Tell him exactly what you mean, no hints, no expecting mind reading, no saying one thing while meaning something else. Men appreciate directness and after not generally subtle.
Listen to what she says and try to understand why she is saying it. There is a good probability that you are not being asked or expected to fix it. She might just need to to listen (really truly listen).
Don't go into avoidable debt.
Talk about kids before you decide to get married. Agree on this because it is not fair to either spouse if expectations are not met later.
Every marriage has a prenuptial agreement built in by the government. The government can change the terms of its own overnight and without your permission. It is better to craft one yourself that you both agree on while you are both still thinking straight.
Don't expect to change your spouse. People do change, but don't count on it and don't try to force it.
#marriage
#advice
#experience
#mistakes
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