malte on Nostr: When all the communication (questions, comments) is directed toward one person in a ...

When all the communication (questions, comments) is directed toward one person in a room, that person is in some way excluded from the community. The underlying message is (without anyone else realizing): You're not one of us. Anyone who's tried becoming an exotic object like that knows how unsettling and unsafe it can feel. Coming in to a new group of people and being told by everyone "you're not one of us" - it makes sense you don't feel safe. Again, the people can be entirely well-meaning!