The men in this video confused and upset me. A lot. After giving it thought, it is because they violated basic notions I have about what it means to be a man.
First, I should mention that I never fully lived up to the Japanese notions of masculinity or the American notions of masculinity, and gave up trying at a young age. Further, I cannot separate which of my notions of masculinity come from Japanese culture, American culture, or…
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https://youtu.be/zf6rUxqrDes
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