The problem is not 'offense', it is 'harm'.
If the word 'cisgender' was genuinely harmful to people, then I would reconsider using it. But it isn't harmful, it's a neat and simple way to explain what I mean when I talk about my own body and gender identity.
https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/offence-is-not-taken-assigned/
Girl on the Net
npub10g…5seww
2026-07-20 20:32:04 UTC
in reply to nevent1q…s73s
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